nicksaiz65
Master Don Juan
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Wait.... @Amante Silvestre BigGoal is gone???? On the same day as SoldierKing???
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No second chance for BigGoal or SoliderKing huh?Yes. Both permanently.
We were afraid they were going to start multiplying.
How did you develop that confidence? I could only get it by working on my hair and fitness and clothes. The self improvement, made me feel like I was actually worth a damn.The first step is by believing you are worth it...something you obviously don't
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
haha, I have put SoldierKing on ignoring on the same day he joins the site. Couldn't stand his BS.Wait.... @Amante Silvestre BigGoal is gone???? On the same day as SoldierKing???
Good stuff. I couldn't stand either of themYes. Both permanently.
We were afraid they were going to start multiplying.
haha, I have put SoldierKing on ignoring on the same day he joins the site. Couldn't stand his BS.
Good entertainment on the site though with those threads. I'll miss them.Good stuff. I couldn't stand either of them
Second chance for Biggoal? Sir? Are YOU SERIOUS?No second chance for BigGoal or SoliderKing huh?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oh I definitely remember the threads. Ironically I picked up lots of tips on what NOT to do from them. I can't believe those threads went on for so longSecond chance for Biggoal? Sir? Are YOU SERIOUS?
You're an ACTIVE member here. Did you somehow miss his hundreds of threads? Not see member after member give reply after reply after reply trying to help him? Did you somehow miss his 300+ reply threads?
You have ANY idea of how much flack us mods had to endure,insults we took,reports we had to sift through about the guy,and how many calls to ban him we resisted before we FINALLY decided it was time for him to go? Man....... can give you post after post after post after post...
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...own-on-old-whats-going-on.264540/post-2716491
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...own-on-old-whats-going-on.264540/post-2716545
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...own-on-old-whats-going-on.264540/post-2716665
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...own-on-old-whats-going-on.264540/post-2716775
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...own-on-old-whats-going-on.264540/post-2716792
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...own-on-old-whats-going-on.264540/post-2717011
dude.....I could go on and on. You notice anything about those examples I just gave?
They're all from just ONE of his threads....all from THE SAME thread. He has what seems like THOUSANDS of threads.....all just like that...all FULL of nothing but people trying to help him,and him either excusing away the advice,or just altogether ignoring it.
And you ask about giving him a "second" chance. Forget the previous MILLION chances,you want to go with #2.
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That's fair. I love what this site has done for my lifeSS is not for entertainment purposes.
It exists to give men the help they need.
Biggoal had no desire to get the help he needed.
She's decently cute, but not super. And she appears to have cougar arms.This is a local forecaster down here I follow on Twitter. A young hottie in a large TV market. How in the world does her fiance get her when he is no Chad or Chad lite at all and isn't even in great shape? I see much better looking guys like this everyday in better shape and all. I mean looks wise she's way beyond his pay grade. So how do guys like this work magic to get high end top of the line HB? Are they using PUA game? Looks like a typical guy you see at the local sports bars drinking beer and watching football. Usually these bubble head young news hotties go for super Chads and even a few cases super Tyrone around here.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I can already tell that she's got cougar arms. If she's only 25, then she knows she is already in decline, and acted accordingly.That chick isn't post wall. Shes like 25.
I already gave up, if he did show up I would ignore, there was no point anymore in tryingI already gave biggoal a temp ban a few months ago. Had to bring out the big guns at this point.
we really were extraordinarily patient with him, and we expended a lot of time and energy reaching out personally to try and help him.
He ignored the help.
Sun damageI can already tell that she's got cougar arms. If she's only 25, then she knows she is already in decline, and acted accordingly.
Then other way around. What happened to the american dream Amante. That's all I would tell biggoal. You have to live it up. That's how you fix your problems.Ive been one for 8 years. Full custody.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.