"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cleared it with the mods! A thread I’ve wanted to do for years. Post your real life picture let the community help fix your looks!(completely optiona)

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thank you for sharing. I will attempt to try this recipe.



What's wrong, you don't like to cook healthy meals? It's good for you.
No, that's not what's wrong. I was remarking about this humorously but it is true that your discussion about cooking is hijacking the thread. You can always start a new one in AE.
 

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Cola you look so thug naturally I reckon in a sharp suit you would appeal to every market.
 

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No, that's not what's wrong. I was remarking about this humorously but it is true that your discussion about cooking is hijacking the thread. You can always start a new one in AE.
please start a baking thtead RicktheToad. Then your recipe and OhsoF's can go there for quick lookup
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No, that's not what's wrong. I was remarking about this humorously but it is true that your discussion about cooking is hijacking the thread. You can always start a new one in AE.
Not technically. We were discussing nutrition and that is how we got to the recipe. I just answered some other posters, I didn't just through in the recipe.

It’s evolved from a fitness guide, to coaching biggoal to now a cookbook. Can’t wait to see what’s next.
What are you hoping for on the next topic? This is already 46 pages. I think you may now have the longest thread on SS. Congrats.
 

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It’s evolved from a fitness guide, to coaching biggoal to now a cookbook. Can’t wait to see what’s next.
Probably ‘what are the thoughts you think’ when you don’t feel like going to the gym or ‘how to stay motivated longterm’ or ‘how to overcome a crux or plateau in training’ would be good to discuss.
 

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This was taken today. I don't have a problem attractive women who most guys would think are 7+/10 and are slim to thick. However people mention I'm not in shape I'm fat and I know I am but damn that can f*** with my mind and sometimes make me believe the women I go on dates with are just intrigued/bored/whatever but don't think I'm good looking. Obviously I don't tell people this except on here and act like it's not a problem and pretty good at it lol. IMG_20200405_201650.jpg IMG_20200405_201545.jpg
 

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This was taken today. I don't have a problem attractive women who most guys would think are 7+/10 and are slim to thick. However people mention I'm not in shape I'm fat and I know I am but damn that can f*** with my mind and sometimes make me believe the women I go on dates with are just intrigued/bored/whatever but don't think I'm good looking. Obviously I don't tell people this except on here and act like it's not a problem and pretty good at it lol. View attachment 4027 View attachment 4025
You might have a little extra weight but your arms look pretty good.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Skinny women do like fat guys. It’s the contrast and the size that makes women feel feminine. Look no further than amateur porn of people uploading their sh1t to see hot women fvcking “big” guys.

I would say younger women are more brainwashed and go for the Justin Bieber cut jawline and braggadocious hair look, and older women are not as manipulated.

in my personal experience, any chick from 14-18 go for pretty boys first. Then after 18 they go for the “anomalies” you see In amateur porn.

For example, I used to give advice to women in a private dating forum. Guess who was the demographic of women that liked fat black guys?

Skinny Asian women. It’s the contrast that creates sexual tension. Other women were like “really, fat black guys?” To skinny Asian women it was their number 1 fantasy.
Lol wth man I noticed that. I'm a fat guy who lifts and I notice it's not hard to attract slim women so I always thought I wasn't fat to women even tho I knew I was. Someone else finally said it. I didn't believe my friend when he told me some chicks like fat guys I thought he was putting me down IMG_20200405_201650.jpg
 

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Lol wth man I noticed that. I'm a fat guy who lifts and I notice it's not hard to attract slim women so I always thought I wasn't fat to women even tho I knew I was. Someone else finally said it. I didn't believe my friend when he told me some chicks like fat guys I thought he was putting me down View attachment 4088
He was helping you. Your fat for out standards here. Nodody said you gotta be 7% bodyfat or less. But its not solid enough to cause attraction on its own. Something funny about "game" is it's spit with the mouthpiece. If they listen you get their imagination and get to trigger feelings. Arousal etc. But on Its own without a grade A mouthpiece that body won't make a female wet.
 

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Lol wth man I noticed that. I'm a fat guy who lifts and I notice it's not hard to attract slim women so I always thought I wasn't fat to women even tho I knew I was. Someone else finally said it. I didn't believe my friend when he told me some chicks like fat guys I thought he was putting me down View attachment 4088
Just need to work on your diet. Cut the carbs, up the protein, and veggies and you'd drop the weight pretty fast naturally. Add CLA to your diet too and it will help buy the excess fat.
 

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He was helping you. Your fat for out standards here. Nodody said you gotta be 7% bodyfat or less. But its not solid enough to cause attraction on its own. Something funny about "game" is it's spit with the mouthpiece. If they listen you get their imagination and get to trigger feelings. Arousal etc. But on Its own without a grade A mouthpiece that body won't make a female wet.
Yeah I like how I look in the 1st photo. These are both same event but camera angle somehow made me look a lot slimmer.2nd is I guess real time. I was 30+lbs less than (I gained muscle and fat since than). This was 2 years ago. The point is I think the 1st pic is ideally what I'd want to look like
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Yeah I like how I look in the 2nd photo. These are both same event but camera angle somehow made me look a lot slimmer. 1st is I guess real time. I was 30+lbs less than (I gained muscle and fat since than but I think body fat% isn't much higher). This was 2 years ago. The point is I think the 2nd pic is ideally what I would want to look when it comes to being lean. View attachment 4090 View attachment 4091
Yea women will like your "type". You can be leaner in those pics but still as you stand it's enough to get it done.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You're right women probably don't stare at me and think damn he's sexy I'm going to throw myself at him.
A few women will. There will be a set of women who like your "type"even if your heavier. But a hot bod obviously creates sexual desire. So in the first case they know they like a guy like you. They won't know they wanna fvck till you talk. In the second case they'll want to fvck off physical image alone.
 

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A few women will. There will be a set of women who like your "type"even if your heavier. But a hot bod obviously creates sexual desire. So in the first case they know they like a guy like you. They won't know they wanna fvck till you talk. In the second case they'll want to fvck off physical image alone.
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Can you put an example and switch the roles so it's the other way around so I can see what kind of women we'd like in the two examples
 

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For the guy, he might nail the "fatter" version of the same girl, but not trying to hang on to her for a girlfriend if he's more attracted to more of a tight body...

The common example I give here to make it simple, is male strippers are a certain body size because it's where they get their attention at. Sized and built somewhere between a larger NFL point guard and a NFL d back. A atheletic look with abs and cuts. Makes them hot without opening your mouth.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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