Here’s one more. This is the girl that wanted me to go on a cruise that I made a thread about. Thank God caronavirus saved me from making that mistake. Why I let this girl get in my head like she did and made all the stupid mistakes I did I’ll never know. I have learned from it though and know I’ll become a better version of me instead of wallowing in pity feeling sorry for myself over it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Cleared it with the mods! A thread I’ve wanted to do for years. Post your real life picture let the community help fix your looks!(completely optiona)
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
Lol NFL point guard isn't that NBA? So what you're telling me is that women want me around so long as they don't have better options and they want attention. Got it.
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
Lol interesting she reminds me of an Asian chick I asked out at academy the day the gyms closed except she had tatts was slimmer(not necessarily slim), older than me too but like 35.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
NBA pt guard. Sorry. I meant a more muscled one 6-6-4 195-220.. Abs can move. The NFL dbacks a little bigger.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Some babes will want a man and will want to keep you. Might as well have the body "top of the game".
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This girl is 34 and has 7 or 8 tats, can’t remember exactly. I made SO many stupid mistakes with her it wasn’t funny. I guess I thought I could get away with it since she wasn’t as attractive as other women I’d dated and then the power imbalance in the whole relationship was so off kilter. Just a bad experience all around but it was my doing.
That's interesting
So you think you gave her the power? And even though she wasn't attractive it still ruined it?
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
So how much should I lose at the very least?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Whats your height weight there?
Looking back I think where I went wrong is at the time I met her, I wasn’t dating anyone else. I’d just gone on a couple of dates a month or two before that went absolutely nowhere. When we met we instantly hit it off, I got comfortable too fast and mistakes started being made fast. It was like the perfect storm. Had I met her at a different point in my life I think things would have been much different and roles would have been reversed.
She wasn’t the type of girl you’d turn your head at, but I think she grew on me. I mean she never treated me like she was “dating down” because I’m honestly average but I’ve dated MUCH better looking women and held my power just fine with them.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You hold your "power" well or it gets amplified if the woman you are "dating" has a high amount of interest and desire for you. If she's "into" you it adds to you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Weight in the 2nd photo is 30lbs more? I can see in the midsection, face not as sharp and a bit more "depressed" looking. That first weight has you bright and energized ( prolly close to your "fighting weight" ).
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Get back to the leanness in the 1st pic. It looks like you added some muscle and need to strip some fat. I don't know your weight here, vs 1st 2nd and 3rd pics. But you need to lean to a size where your face is like the 1st pic. A lot of women will like your type dude.
25-35 lbs of fat. It'll take 4-5 months on a reduced carb diet while doing cardio and keeping your weights workout. Goal is to get facial leanness to first pic and keep the added muscle. I can tell your heavy by the fat around your knee and calves and in the mid section.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So the biggest mistake us idiots make is trying to "chase" a female, or trying to "prove our worth", or trying to get an uninsterested babe interested.
She was a master at manipulation and tripping you up. I didn’t have any experience with a girl like that, even at my age. I made mistakes but she also capitalized on them and helped me make even more mistakes. Like I said, this is a lesson to all men that it doesn’t have to be a HB8-10 to make you do foolish things and throw you way off your game. This girl is maybe a 5 or 6 but oneitis comes fast when you’re in a slow streak and self confidence begins to wain. It was a valuable lesson I learned, maybe that was good that I met her and went through it. Her looks are fading fast though, I’ve seen pics of her when she was just a few years younger and she looked much better.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yes! It’s like a drug, you know it’s bad but you just want one more hit. I’m glad I’m not like that with every girl but certain women can bring it out on you and make you look silly.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
People that "act ugly and play dirty" end up looking "ugly" in the face.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
What do you think it is about those "girls" who "bring it out in you"? Do you think they are master c0ck tease/carrot danglers? Is it the way they position themselves, that pushes buttons on you? What is it?
I really wish I could pinpoint it. I say that because I don’t get oneitis very often. See the blonde haired girl in the pic? I broke up with her because I was tired of her **** after a year and a half. We got back together off and on for short spurts but now we are cool with each other. I won’t call her my friend but she and I share a Netflix account and text at least once a week. With the girl that hemmed me up so bad, I think it was the perfect storm like I said. When I met her I’d just been in a slump, coming off some bad dates, I didn’t reek of desperation but maybe she did sense that. We got along very well in the beginning, it was almost too good. I didn’t ever set any boundaries (or if I tried she’d just walk right through them) and the rest is history. She was the type to text everyday all day, I knew better but I couldn’t stop myself. If I did she’d throw a fit, I was afraid of losing her and before you know it she was so high up on a pedestal that you’d need a ladder to get to her. She will never find a guy that kissed her ass like I did and I suspect she will be back to get some more of that oneday when she realizes her looks are fading rapidly and she needs an ego bump.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So afraid of losing her coupled with allowing to walk thru boundaries fvcked you in the azz like a pig on a stick?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.