"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Baking bread is a pretty intoxicating smell. Done in 16 min
At least 2 times every week my house smells of bread baking. I learned to bake sourdough bread about a month ago, I haven't bought a bread since, just flour. It's very simple, it just takes a lot of time (most of which is doing nothing actively) and some planning if you have a schedule. It's the best bread I've ever tasted, I dont think I can go back or even bake with store bought yeast again.
 

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At least 2 times every week my house smells of bread baking. I learned to bake sourdough bread about a month ago, I haven't bought a bread since, just flour. It's very simple, it just takes a lot of time (most of which is doing nothing actively) and some planning if you have a schedule. It's the best bread I've ever tasted, I dont think I can go back or even bake with store bought yeast again.
Good job, sourdough is nice.
It is easy to do this. Just the time commitment, like you said.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Let us know how it turns out!




What's stsrter?
oh Serenity does sourdough and said he doesn't use yeast so it must be a starter he keeps. I think its like a hunk of wet dough you have to keep warm somewhere all the time until you use it to make new loaf. Never tried it.
Mine turned out delicious but...I'm a self-forgiving baker, lol Improved in texture only after completely cooling. Didn't rise too much(in bowl or while baking) but still very nice. Thanks again! I had fun
 

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In pioneer days, a lot of people baked bread every day.
 

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In pioneer days, a lot of people baked bread every day.
Yes. Learned that in the Laura Ingalls Wilder series of "Little House on the Prairie" books I started reading at 8 years old. The spirit and high moral values for women and description of hard work is fascinating in those books.
I'd love to bake bread everyday. Super cheerful memories from baking for my grandma and parents on vacation. I'm not sure why do we ever stop what we love doing? Was it really lack of time and energy?
 

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girls enjoy creating from a mans provisions, to feed him, to keep him healthy... so that he can continue to provide (and protect)

its all very primal.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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oh Serenity does sourdough and said he doesn't use yeast so it must be a starter he keeps. I think its like a hunk of wet dough you have to keep warm somewhere all the time until you use it to make new loaf. Never tried it.
Mine turned out delicious but...I'm a self-forgiving baker, lol Improved in texture only after completely cooling. Didn't rise too much(in bowl or while baking) but still very nice. Thanks again! I had fun
Yes, it tastes better after it cools and settles. I happen to love the taste and the bread is actually really healthy and good for you. Add different spices and flavors and you can make some really tasty concoctions. It doesn't really rise much as the ingredients do not really give it the ability to do so.
 

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girls enjoy creating from a mans provisions, to feed him, to keep him healthy... so that he can continue to provide (and protect)
its all very primal.
Interesting comment. I would say that it true, as long as the girl is high interest.

The impression I get from the whole counterculture and feminism movement is that they resented being domestic, keeping the house.
Also interesting that you talk about providing (along with protecting) being primal, when guys here dismiss that as a beta trait.
That's never sat quite right with me. In hunter/gatherer days, the man was always out hunting to provide. Yet PUAs want to tell you that women automatically look at guys able to provide as chumps.
 

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Yes, it tastes better after it cools and settles. I happen to love the taste and the bread is actually really healthy and good for you. Add different spices and flavors and you can make some really tasty concoctions. It doesn't really rise much as the ingredients do not really give it the ability to do so.
ok, because for the next one I was going to try to be a little hotter on the yeast mix and then maybe proof it in a turned off oven <100°F . But if that's all she'll rise then so be it.
I was thinking cinnamon and raw sunflower seeds next....this combo tastes good in oatmeal soo.....
 

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girls enjoy creating from a mans provisions, to feed him, to keep him healthy... so that he can continue to provide (and protect)

its all very primal.
completely agree-the very millisecond he doesn't protect however.....(my new realisation((Jan 2020)) of the most important manquality is this ----his protective quality imo and subjectively, personally speaking....the very instant he can't........ .well, you can't negotiate desire----there's repercussions. End of relationship.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yes. Learned that in the Laura Ingalls Wilder series of "Little House on the Prairie" books I started reading at 8 years old. The spirit and high moral values for women and description of hard work is fascinating in those books.
I'd love to bake bread everyday. Super cheerful memories from baking for my grandma and parents on vacation. I'm not sure why do we ever stop what we love doing? Was it really lack of time and energy?
You can blame feminism for that.

“No, you should not just stay at home doing whatever the heck you want with a little bit of housework while spending your husband’s money in whatever the heck you want whenever you want! You should go work a job you don’t even really like that stresses you out half the time, so that you could be empowered. Better yet, don’t even get married in your 20s, only focus on your career. By the time you’re in your 30s, your career will be all set and you’ll finally have the freedom you want! Oh wait, because you’re in your 30s, no guy even wants you? They only want you for sex like how you did in your 20s? Shame on them for sexually objectifying you much like how you did in the previous decade! They should see you for the true strong woman that you are! You don’t need a man. You have your own life outside of them. You’re strong, independent, have a career that gives you vacation once or twice a year, that’s not so bad, right? You’re only in your 30s, you have the rest of your entire life going for you! With life expectancy going up, you’ll probably live till you’re in your 80s. You still have 50 years left! And what do you have to look forward to?

Work! You can just work, for the next 50 years! Yay to empowerment!”

- some feminist
 

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You can blame feminism for that.

“No, you should not just stay at home doing whatever the heck you want with a little bit of housework while spending your husband’s money in whatever the heck you want whenever you want! You should go work a job you don’t even really like that stresses you out half the time, so that you could be empowered. Better yet, don’t even get married in your 20s, only focus on your career. By the time you’re in your 30s, your career will be all set and you’ll finally have the freedom you want! Oh wait, because you’re in your 30s, no guy even wants you? They only want you for sex like how you did in your 20s? Shame on them for sexually objectifying you much like how you did in the previous decade! They should see you for the true strong woman that you are! You don’t need a man. You have your own life outside of them. You’re strong, independent, have a career that gives you vacation once or twice a year, that’s not so bad, right? You’re only in your 30s, you have the rest of your entire life going for you! With life expectancy going up, you’ll probably live till you’re in your 80s. You still have 50 years left! And what do you have to look forward to?

Work! You can just work, for the next 50 years! Yay to empowerment!”

- some feminist
Yep, I agree. I wish I could have found a childfree-by-choice man a long, long time ago. Still do. (oops, I just said that out loud didn't I?)

You're royally fvcked, as a woman who's an outlier(nokids, no interest in stepmotherhood, no dice)
I still believe I should finish paying off this debt then go work parttime in the vasectomy clinic. lol.

Abundance of choice there, as long as I can discern the completely single, unattached, no existing children ones.


Harsh, honest words today. I'll take a break from computers for awhile.


I want to bake more and get on my bicycle. The sunshine is gorgeous today.
 

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My wife couldn't cook toast, when I met her, but she became an excellent cook. Looking for a woman who can cook is probably not as important as noticing when a woman is motivated to cook for you. One thing I know for a fact is that too many bachelors are too proud of their culinary independence to get out of the way, and let a so-motivated woman learn her way around "his" kitchen.

She said:”you want me to scramble some eggs for you?"

He said: "do you know how to cook? Don't burn my house down. Let me do it."

Start over

She said:"you want me to scramble you some eggs?"

He said:"that would be great! I'm starving!"

She said:"where do you keep everything?"

He said:"I don't know. I never go in there. But, I'm pretty sure you'll find everything you need. Knock yourself out. I'm gonna jump in the shower, while you do your thing."

[Whatever she cooked was delicious...even if she forgot the salt, and the toast was burnt]

She said:"hey! I noticed that culinary arts certificate on your kitchen wall. What's the story behind that?"

He said:"I don't know. It was there when I moved in. These are great!"

[note to self: burn culinary arts certificate]
Traditionally speaking, I do not think you are supposed to cook toast. Funny story, when I was married over a decade ago, my then wife attempted to cook when I went out to pick-up some stuff. I knew in the back of my mind she'd not be successful, so I picked up some sushi for us to share as a backup and kept it in the truck. Came back, she tried to cook the frozen chicken in the oven without defrosting. People nowadays, not just females, order takeout and Ubereats, they don't cook. It's a lost art. Yes, it can be learned, but most are not disciplined to do so. Some are though.
 

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420? My God. I thought I was good when I hit 315 lol
Haha...you got a ways to go B...I got up to 505 at my peak a few years ago...now I have dialed it back quite a bit with the heavy weights on everything...really started to take a heavy toll on my joints
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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