Cleared it with the mods! A thread I’ve wanted to do for years. Post your real life picture let the community help fix your looks!(completely optiona)

[Lynx nkaf]

You can blame feminism for that.

“No, you should not just stay at home doing whatever the heck you want with a little bit of housework while spending your husband’s money in whatever the heck you want whenever you want! You should go work a job you don’t even really like that stresses you out half the time, so that you could be empowered. Better yet, don’t even get married in your 20s, only focus on your career. By the time you’re in your 30s, your career will be all set and you’ll finally have the freedom you want! Oh wait, because you’re in your 30s, no guy even wants you? They only want you for sex like how you did in your 20s? Shame on them for sexually objectifying you much like how you did in the previous decade! They should see you for the true strong woman that you are! You don’t need a man. You have your own life outside of them. You’re strong, independent, have a career that gives you vacation once or twice a year, that’s not so bad, right? You’re only in your 30s, you have the rest of your entire life going for you! With life expectancy going up, you’ll probably live till you’re in your 80s. You still have 50 years left! And what do you have to look forward to?

Work! You can just work, for the next 50 years! Yay to empowerment!”

- some feminist

Yep, I agree. I wish I could have found a childfree-by-choice man a long, long time ago. Still do. (oops, I just said that out loud didn't I?)

You're royally fvcked, as a woman who's an outlier(nokids, no interest in stepmotherhood, no dice)
I still believe I should finish paying off this debt then go work parttime in the vasectomy clinic. lol.

Abundance of choice there, as long as I can discern the completely single, unattached, no existing children ones.


Harsh, honest words today. I'll take a break from computers for awhile.


I want to bake more and get on my bicycle. The sunshine is gorgeous today.

 

[RickTheToad]

My wife couldn't cook toast, when I met her, but she became an excellent cook. Looking for a woman who can cook is probably not as important as noticing when a woman is motivated to cook for you. One thing I know for a fact is that too many bachelors are too proud of their culinary independence to get out of the way, and let a so-motivated woman learn her way around "his" kitchen.

She said:”you want me to scramble some eggs for you?"

He said: "do you know how to cook? Don't burn my house down. Let me do it."

Start over

She said:"you want me to scramble you some eggs?"

He said:"that would be great! I'm starving!"

She said:"where do you keep everything?"

He said:"I don't know. I never go in there. But, I'm pretty sure you'll find everything you need. Knock yourself out. I'm gonna jump in the shower, while you do your thing."

[Whatever she cooked was delicious...even if she forgot the salt, and the toast was burnt]

She said:"hey! I noticed that culinary arts certificate on your kitchen wall. What's the story behind that?"

He said:"I don't know. It was there when I moved in. These are great!"

[note to self: burn culinary arts certificate]

Traditionally speaking, I do not think you are supposed to cook toast. Funny story, when I was married over a decade ago, my then wife attempted to cook when I went out to pick-up some stuff. I knew in the back of my mind she'd not be successful, so I picked up some sushi for us to share as a backup and kept it in the truck. Came back, she tried to cook the frozen chicken in the oven without defrosting. People nowadays, not just females, order takeout and Ubereats, they don't cook. It's a lost art. Yes, it can be learned, but most are not disciplined to do so. Some are though.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

420? My God. I thought I was good when I hit 315 lol

Haha...you got a ways to go B...I got up to 505 at my peak a few years ago...now I have dialed it back quite a bit with the heavy weights on everything...really started to take a heavy toll on my joints

 

[nicksaiz65]

Haha...you got a ways to go B...I got up to 505 at my peak a few years ago...now I have dialed it back quite a bit with the heavy weights on everything...really started to take a heavy toll on my joints

I'll get there one day for sure. I'm gonna be bodybuilder big in the future anyways.

Could you deadlift 600 around that time too?

I remember Pook said he could squat 500 pounds as well. That's life goals for sure

 

[RickTheToad]

Obviously, the culinary arts certificate wasn't mine.

However, not to over-personalize this...let's just say I knew a man who was an expert is just about everything...not everything, but a true Renaissance man...it was a challenge to find something he wasn't good at. His wife was no slouch, either; she was beautiful and brilliant, with a fair set of technical abilities of her own, but she was a terrible cook...Lisa Douglas('Green Acres') bad. He was an excellent cook, though. Why wouldn't he be? He was good at everything else.

The problem that I noticed, though, which he didn't notice, is that his wife never learned to cook, because she genuinely believed she could never be as good as he was. Of course, her children wouldn't have cared that their father was a better cook than their mother(why wouldn't he be? he was better at everything than everybody else), as long as their mother was a decent cook, because(good or bad) she did most of the cooking.

Anyway, I learned from observation to stay out of the kitchen, and to feign ignorance, unless I wanted to eat a lot of takeout, or do all the cooking. Oh, and complimenting each effort like it was the best meal I ever ate accomplished a lot of encouragement.


Did you encourage her or correct her, and show her how it was supposed to be done?

I am no Emeril Lagasse, but I can handle my own. I would encourage, and we'd try to cook together. It was a fruitless endevour.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

I am no Emeril Lagasse, but I can handle my own. I would encourage, and we'd try to cook together. It was a fruitless endevour.

well, your posted recipe here encouraged some of us, anyways, that personality trait of yours shouldn't be smothered b/c of one obstinate human in your past.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'll get there one day for sure. I'm gonna be bodybuilder big in the future anyways.

Could you deadlift 600 around that time too?

I remember Pook said he could squat 500 pounds as well. That's life goals for sure

Not quite...I got up to 565 for 2 reps but I popped my back on the second rep so I never tried anything that heavy again after that...

 

[Lynx nkaf]

I wouldn't encourage any man to stifle his talents or passions. I was merely pointing out, in a more general sense, that a man who knows his way too well around the kitchen can be as stifling to a budding female cook, as a woman who can rebuild an engine can be to a man who can barely change the brakes. Just an observation.

hmm, yes, you are right. Nice comparison.
I took your post up there to be positive actually. I think I even saved it as a good idea(to apply to other scenarios)


I thought you were illustrating using the Tom Sawyer trick. Or that's what my Dad called it.

When you really don't want to paint the fence pickets, you hand the brush to your buddy and ask them if they can paint better then compliment them so they keep painting while you don't have to, lol

Was that in the story of Tom Sawyer? I haven't read it yet.

 

[Staticus]

So here recently the “scruff” has been coming in quicker than normal. I’m usually a clean shave kind of guy. Trying to decide if I should shave this or see what it’ll do. It’s been awhile since I’ve let my facial hair grow out.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

That's pretty much it, but, if I recall correctly, Tom Sawyer was trying to persuade his friends how much fun painting the fence was, so that his friends would happily take over the task. That's a slightly different strategy, and as amusing as it is, probably far less effective.

hmmm.

making me rethink that. I don't have that technique yet, then. Maybe there's some techniques really just better suited for men to use.
I love thinking about this stuff.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

I wouldn't encourage any man to stifle his talents or passions. I was merely pointing out, in a more general sense, that a man who knows his way too well around the kitchen can be as stifling to a budding female cook, as a woman who can rebuild an engine can be to a man who can barely change the brakes. Just an observation.

Only suggesting that a little selective feigned helplessness, and standing aside can(in many cases, not all) go some distance towards sparking that passion in someone to whom one might wish to pass the touch.

Personally, I don't even know how to turn on the stove I bought my wife. I'm sure I could figure it out, but she's very territorial, and I like her cooking; so, I don't even touch it.

Shepays, thank you for replying, I'm getting some help on something bigger here. Completing continuing to derail Cola's post, sorry man,

So, how would I tread that thin line between starting to feign helplessness and appearing manipulative?
Feigning and manipulation seem dishonest to me but I"ll do it to gain a greater good.(solipsistically: my own happiness as the greater good, I mean and admit)

Example: Finding a mate with similar values that would encourage me to leave the workforce(I'd responsibly pay off debt myself and set up a passive yearly income for myself first)

Someone who wouldn't shame me for not working anymore.
You know what I mean; the career woman, you-go-girl mindset that surprisingly a lot of men have encouraged me in.(coworkers and family, anyways)

I have faced this too.
"Oh Lynx, you've got this and that qualification, you spent this much time in apprenticeships and that much time in college, don't you want to make more money?" Or "Lynx, I never saw myself as just settling in a one income household with a woman" (that one was said as recently as 5 months ago to me)

I have more interrelationship skills to build. Thanks for your time.

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

Let us know how it turns out!




What's stsrter?

Exposing your dough to wild indigenous yeasts that are in your bioregion. Sometimes elusive and other times takes on the quality of ‘terroir’ similar to unique combinations of wine soils and climate.

 

[RickTheToad]

Exposing your dough to wild indigenous yeasts that are in your bioregion. Sometimes elusive and other times takes on the quality of ‘terroir’ similar to unique combinations of wine soils and climate.

There are no indigenous yeasts in Bridgeport, CT dude. Maybe in Asia, Central / South America and Africa, but in North America, don't think so. Maybe if we had some Native American Indian's, then that might something. However, their lands are a couple hours away from here. I do not think they live off the land anymore... They seem to live very well off of the casinos.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

Come to think of it, it wasn't my intention to derail Cola's thread, but if you want to start another one on this topic, if be happy to discuss it there.

ok

 

[Lynx nkaf]

ok

in wingman's forum but might be moved by a Mod, not sure

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

There are no indigenous yeasts in Bridgeport, CT dude. Maybe in Asia, Central / South America and Africa, but in North America, don't think so. Maybe if we had some Native American Indian's, then that might something. However, their lands are a couple hours away from here. I do not think they live off the land anymore... They seem to live very well off of the casinos.

You are mis-informed. Yeasts are in the air we breath anywhere on the planet.

What are yeast? - SGD-Wiki

wiki.yeastgenome.org

 

[RickTheToad]

You are mis-informed. Yeasts are in the air we breath anywhere on the planet.

https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS597US598&hl=en-US&sxsrf=ALeKk03Kn14bstJvhrVWx7ZnEatvP8dHiw%3A1585426489191&ei=ObB_XvyeC8HQ9AP6kbSYCQ&q=where+is+yeast+found&oq=yeast+natural+habitat&gs_lcp=ChNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwEAEYATIECAAQRzIECAAQRzIECAAQRzIECAAQRzIECAAQR1AAWABgwz5oAHABeACAAQCIAQCSAQCYAQA&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp

Respectfully, I think you're out there, like Pluto, if you think you can catch yeast from the air and use it for making bread.

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

Respectfully, I think you're out there, like Pluto, if you think you can catch yeast from the air and use it for making bread.

You have no idea what you are talking about. You could educate yourself with sourdough enthusiasts put since you seem to know everything, probably won’t happen.

 

[RickTheToad]

You have no idea what you are talking about. You could educate yourself with sourdough enthusiasts put since you seem to know everything, probably won’t happen.

Yes, I will agree. I am not part of the sourdough supreme alliance. I wish I did. Please, enlighten us.

I only really know about medical issues, dating, ladies, bonds and markets. The stuff I do not know, I do not comment on.

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

Yes, I will agree. I am not part of the sourdough supreme alliance. I wish I did. Please, enlighten us.

I only really know about medical issues, dating, ladies, bonds and markets. The stuff I do not know, I do not comment on.

Flour, water, salt

that’s it.

Fermenting flour/water. Where it ferments, what other plants that are around, the temperature and humidity are what enthusiasts like to tweak.

Most of my fermenting is with sauerkraut and kombucha’s. I’m experimenting paleo/keto with my diet so not big on bread atm. Vegan cheeses though are something of interest.

The other fungi that I’m focusing on are immunity boosting anti-viral/bacterial mushrooms.

Here’s a simple breakdown. This is an example of old skill knowledge, learning things from scratch.
Basic Principles are the building blocks.

Making an Incredible Sourdough Starter from Scratch in 7 Easy Steps

A step-by-step guide to making an incredible sourdough starter from scratch in 7 easy steps. Start baking sourdough bread at home with a new yeast starter!

www.theperfectloaf.com