I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
No, that's not what's wrong. I was remarking about this humorously but it is true that your discussion about cooking is hijacking the thread. You can always start a new one in AE.Thank you for sharing. I will attempt to try this recipe.
What's wrong, you don't like to cook healthy meals? It's good for you.
please start a baking thtead RicktheToad. Then your recipe and OhsoF's can go there for quick lookupNo, that's not what's wrong. I was remarking about this humorously but it is true that your discussion about cooking is hijacking the thread. You can always start a new one in AE.
It’s evolved from a fitness guide, to coaching biggoal to now a cookbook. Can’t wait to see what’s next.@cola LOL did you ever expect your thread to turn into a cookbook?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not technically. We were discussing nutrition and that is how we got to the recipe. I just answered some other posters, I didn't just through in the recipe.No, that's not what's wrong. I was remarking about this humorously but it is true that your discussion about cooking is hijacking the thread. You can always start a new one in AE.
What are you hoping for on the next topic? This is already 46 pages. I think you may now have the longest thread on SS. Congrats.It’s evolved from a fitness guide, to coaching biggoal to now a cookbook. Can’t wait to see what’s next.
Probably ‘what are the thoughts you think’ when you don’t feel like going to the gym or ‘how to stay motivated longterm’ or ‘how to overcome a crux or plateau in training’ would be good to discuss.It’s evolved from a fitness guide, to coaching biggoal to now a cookbook. Can’t wait to see what’s next.

You might have a little extra weight but your arms look pretty good.This was taken today. I don't have a problem attractive women who most guys would think are 7+/10 and are slim to thick. However people mention I'm not in shape I'm fat and I know I am but damn that can f*** with my mind and sometimes make me believe the women I go on dates with are just intrigued/bored/whatever but don't think I'm good looking. Obviously I don't tell people this except on here and act like it's not a problem and pretty good at it lol. View attachment 4027 View attachment 4025
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lol wth man I noticed that. I'm a fat guy who lifts and I notice it's not hard to attract slim women so I always thought I wasn't fat to women even tho I knew I was. Someone else finally said it. I didn't believe my friend when he told me some chicks like fat guys I thought he was putting me downSkinny women do like fat guys. It’s the contrast and the size that makes women feel feminine. Look no further than amateur porn of people uploading their sh1t to see hot women fvcking “big” guys.
I would say younger women are more brainwashed and go for the Justin Bieber cut jawline and braggadocious hair look, and older women are not as manipulated.
in my personal experience, any chick from 14-18 go for pretty boys first. Then after 18 they go for the “anomalies” you see In amateur porn.
For example, I used to give advice to women in a private dating forum. Guess who was the demographic of women that liked fat black guys?
Skinny Asian women. It’s the contrast that creates sexual tension. Other women were like “really, fat black guys?” To skinny Asian women it was their number 1 fantasy.

He was helping you. Your fat for out standards here. Nodody said you gotta be 7% bodyfat or less. But its not solid enough to cause attraction on its own. Something funny about "game" is it's spit with the mouthpiece. If they listen you get their imagination and get to trigger feelings. Arousal etc. But on Its own without a grade A mouthpiece that body won't make a female wet.Lol wth man I noticed that. I'm a fat guy who lifts and I notice it's not hard to attract slim women so I always thought I wasn't fat to women even tho I knew I was. Someone else finally said it. I didn't believe my friend when he told me some chicks like fat guys I thought he was putting me down View attachment 4088
Just need to work on your diet. Cut the carbs, up the protein, and veggies and you'd drop the weight pretty fast naturally. Add CLA to your diet too and it will help buy the excess fat.Lol wth man I noticed that. I'm a fat guy who lifts and I notice it's not hard to attract slim women so I always thought I wasn't fat to women even tho I knew I was. Someone else finally said it. I didn't believe my friend when he told me some chicks like fat guys I thought he was putting me down View attachment 4088
Yeah I like how I look in the 1st photo. These are both same event but camera angle somehow made me look a lot slimmer.2nd is I guess real time. I was 30+lbs less than (I gained muscle and fat since than). This was 2 years ago. The point is I think the 1st pic is ideally what I'd want to look likeHe was helping you. Your fat for out standards here. Nodody said you gotta be 7% bodyfat or less. But its not solid enough to cause attraction on its own. Something funny about "game" is it's spit with the mouthpiece. If they listen you get their imagination and get to trigger feelings. Arousal etc. But on Its own without a grade A mouthpiece that body won't make a female wet.

Yea women will like your "type". You can be leaner in those pics but still as you stand it's enough to get it done.Yeah I like how I look in the 2nd photo. These are both same event but camera angle somehow made me look a lot slimmer. 1st is I guess real time. I was 30+lbs less than (I gained muscle and fat since than but I think body fat% isn't much higher). This was 2 years ago. The point is I think the 2nd pic is ideally what I would want to look when it comes to being lean. View attachment 4090 View attachment 4091
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You're right women probably don't stare at me and think damn he's sexy I'm going to throw myself at him.Yea women will like your "type". You can be leaner in those pics but still as you stand it's enough to get it done.
A few women will. There will be a set of women who like your "type"even if your heavier. But a hot bod obviously creates sexual desire. So in the first case they know they like a guy like you. They won't know they wanna fvck till you talk. In the second case they'll want to fvck off physical image alone.You're right women probably don't stare at me and think damn he's sexy I'm going to throw myself at him.
A few women will. There will be a set of women who like your "type"even if your heavier. But a hot bod obviously creates sexual desire. So in the first case they know they like a guy like you. They won't know they wanna fvck till you talk. In the second case they'll want to fvck off physical image alone.
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Can you put an example and switch the roles so it's the other way around so I can see what kind of women we'd like in the two examples
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.