"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Cheeky_James

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Are u Paul Janka? Lmao - I love Paul Janka - he's my OG coach, the first guy I learned the game from. By the way, loving your thread. It's funny and well-written. I think the other dude was being too autistic/critical. I can see that u probably have good game based on ur writing.
thanks man. Appreciate that.
He’s an OG for sure :cool::up:
Nah, I’m like ‘Janka -lite’,
More like Medium, dark & Handsome.
5’10” tall ,but a decent face. 7/10
I studied all his stuff years ago tho, his books and also some video course /seminar course he did. Great stuff :up::up::up:
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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here’s a tip- whenever you watch a video and the speaker takes a very long time to get to the point , (uses open loops at the start etc and then delays, and does a big build up etc) - this is classic sales and marketing format.
the speaker is conditioning you , pacing and leading , to bypass your critical factor.
I do hate it when people won't get to the point. Very aggravating. They might also do it to fill out their video, so they get more minutes viewed. Reminds me of a lot of PUA material I've read. They'll fill a whole chapter with babble just to make one point. Drives me crazy. You could write most PUA books on one page if you just cut to the chase. But then they wouldn't have a book to sell.
 

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I do hate it when people won't get to the point. Very aggravating. They might also do it to fill out their video, so they get more minutes viewed. Reminds me of a lot of PUA material I've read. They'll fill a whole chapter with babble just to make one point. Drives me crazy. You could write most PUA books on one page if you just cut to the chase. But then they wouldn't have a book to sell.
oh yeah. But it’s worse than just babble /filler.
There’s lotsa sneaky and covert marketing /influencing “tech” used in those videos and books.
NLP based stuff and conversational hypnosis based stuff ..in written form and spoken form on videos.
Took me years to see that.
That was after I took some courses in it myself.
Like most of the RSD big courses were packed with it. Those freaks were well trained up in that.

look out for phrases like
“ have you ever ..”
“ imagine a time when”
“With me, now”
“Deeper and deeper “
Etc etc
And also he use of Paradox/Paradoxial statements
(Mind bending language)

and if anyone is doing finger clicking / hand slapping in videos that’s a dead giveaway. Whoever they say before / after this is usually an embedded command or Anchoring. I can give an example and do a breakdown analysis if anyone is interested . << clicks fingers >>
 
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Update
Did a bit more practice of the laser eyes at the swimming pool yesterday. The girl at the entry desk was very cute and brown eyed . We had an intense exchange of EC for about 10 seconds on my walk up the counter , and further through the interaction as I bought the entry ticket.
Could have sworn I saw a smirk cross her face.
This is Good stuff !
It was not a pickup , but interesting to see the reaction at times. A flash of something in the eyes.

went up to my local cafe strip yesterday and just observed the crowd for a few hours. There were not many decent single ladies around.
The hottest I saw were 2 younger women waitresses at a fancy cafe I stopped on for coffee at . Both had very cute faces and big t1ts.
Although both also were upon further inspection quite doughy in the mid section.
They must be eating too many fancy croissants for free at the cafe :rofl::lol:

It was a shame for one especially, the blonde, who had an instgram Model blonde hair, sun kissed tan , lovely lips. gorgeous blue eyes and an excellent big rack (wowza)
With Her a$$ looking saggy , under the muffin-y mid section. Defs shouldn’t be showing that off with a short top imo.

upon my return home I realised I was not even dressed well (lol) in an old hoodie and jacket w crumped chinos.

Must remember to put on my pickup wear before going out anywhere and keep up the grooming, and be looking shmick.

At all times!
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Keep at it and maybe you'll graduate to this level


go to 6:55
I was just thinking “ did he post up the wrong scene? I don’t see any EC!” Haha.

I was thinking of this movie recently , the Michael Biehn characters monologue to Sarah Connor in the car;
“It can't be bargained with,
it can't be reasoned with.
It doesn't feel pity! Or remorse or fear ..
and it absolutely will not stop!... ever... until you are LAID !”

HES A PUA T-1000 MODEL !! :oops::D
 

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Tell her that you want to slip in your infiltration unit
 
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