"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What did you meeean @Plinco

and do you still hear that awful screaming.. the screaming of the Lambsss... :D

quid pro quo Plinco. IMG_8324.jpeg

You wanted to go all the way.
All the way .. to the P.U.AAA..YEAH!
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I just heard “The strangest secret in the world” and switched it off .

Sounds similar to “ that one strangest weird trick to get beautiful women, tonite!” Type BS.
Secrets and strange tricks .. I’ve had enough of that.
 
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I just heard “The strangest secret in the world” and switched it off .

Sounds similar to “ that one strangest weird trick to get beautiful women, tonite!” Type BS.
Secrets and strange tricks .. I’ve had enough of that.
Just listen to it buddy. That concept is more important than women.
 

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Just listen to it buddy. That concept is more important than women.
yes but this is a cold approach journal .
Concerned with getting women.
I skimmed 10 minutes on fast speed, and he’s still babbling. It’s junk mate.
Just reveal to me the one strange weird secret.
What’s the magic answer at the end. :rolleyes:
like I said the words ‘strange’ and ‘secret’ are enough. Stop falling for this crap.
 

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You become what you think about
that’s garbage.
otherwise I could become taller and better looking…just by thinking about it :rolleyes::rofl:
Manifesting is bullsh1t Plinco.

here’s a tip- whenever you watch a video and the speaker takes a very long time to get to the point , (uses open loops at the start etc and then delays, and does a big build up etc) - this is classic sales and marketing format.
the speaker is conditioning you , pacing and leading , to bypass your critical factor.

All the PUA guys are well trained in this also.
And all use the same formula . Plus NLP/ Hypnosis on you , as you watch the video.(very sneaky stuff)

watch this instead.
This guy uses empirical data (actual studies) to back up all his points. He is a very smart guy.
Much better watch.
This is reality.

 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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that’s garbage.
otherwise I could become taller and better looking…just by thinking about it :rolleyes::rofl:
Manifesting is bullsh1t Plinco.
It's just the opposite. You're facing the direction that your mind points to. There's nothing magical about it.

It's taken as a given assumption that you're not seeking to violate the laws of physics.
 

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It's just the opposite. You're facing the direction that your mind points to. There's nothing magical about it.

It's taken as a given assumption that you're not seeking to violate the laws of physics.
oh yeah? And what about all the other laws of reality…Does it abide by them too..? Why don’t u post this up on a separate thread and we discuss . This is my Cold Approach journal. It is not relevant afaics.
 

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Update -
So I took a few days off and went up to a country town for a day trip yesterday. Walking the town strip and keeping up my practice of Laser Eyes :)o_O

so I’m walking around the strip and head to a bar to use the bathroom, I see a chick sitting on her own drinking wine outside the bar and give her some solid EC. She iOi’s me back. I wave and say hello holding the EC.
She says hi. I nip into the bar and use the bathroom. Inside I feel some nerves but say to myself “just do it “ and walk back out and approach her. My opener was just “ well you look like you’re having a nice chill time here , drinking wine”
She is keen to talk.
We chit chat a bit, about the town, the country vs the city and what I’ve seen of the town so far. all the while I am holding solid EC for the duration and watching her face for expressions . She gives off a few signals in her face and eyes and it’s on for sure. A male friend comes back and sits down and I chat to him for a bit, and back to her. Then a 2nd male friend comes and sits down. Number closing here would be too obvious I feel , and I don’t know the relationships, and it’s getting a bit complicated, so do a takeaway and leave to get my car which I’ve parked far away , drive it down and park it up the street and do another walk by btw to use the recycling bin nearby and wave over again.

I rejoin the table and have a smoke. One dude has left . I chat a bit more about the city and nightspot there w her. Then when the remaining dude is distracted and chatting to a local passer by , I suggest to her we meet later , take her phone and plug my number in it , and send a text from her phone back to my phone, so it’s a solid number close.

I have made sure and told her my plans for the rest of the day and my whereabouts. We are both sharing this info indirectly throughout the chat as a “by the way” innocent exchange. And all the flirting is done by the eyes and face signals we are exchanging mainly. I only dropped one semi -compliment verbally when she was alone at the start of the pickup.

So I leave then, and text her shortly afterward,
we meet up an hour later at another bar, spend an hour flirting and escalating , and have a few make outs there. I am very hands on and escalating w her in isolation on the terrace alone w her. Then I mention I think I’m gonna stay the night now and need to book a hotel room, she thinks this is a wonderful idea (lol) and verifies she is keen to hang out there.

then I drive her back and fvck her at the hotel . : D

She leaves a few hours later. And I go out for a late dinner . Nice!

So I got laid yesterday off an approach, on a day trip to the country :D
happy days.
Met her around 2:30pm, and she was in the sack about 7pm.
Oh and importantly , she was younger , slim and pretty.

:D whoop whoop.

This Laser Eyes /EC practice is certainly paying off :up::up::up:
 
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Update -
So I took a few days off and went up to a country town for a day trip yesterday. Walking the town strip and keeping up my practice of Laser Eyes :)o_O

so I’m walking around the strip and head to a bar to use the bathroom, I see a chick sitting on her own drinking wine outside the bar and give her some solid EC. She iOi’s me back. I wave and say hello holding the EC.
She says hi. I nip into the bar and use the bathroom. Inside I feel some nerves but say to myself “just do it “ and walk back out and approach her. My opener was just “ well you look like you’re having a nice chill time here , drinking wine”
She is keen to talk.
We chit chat a bit, about the town, the country vs the city and what I’ve seen of the town so far. all the while I am holding solid EC for the duration and watching her face for expressions . She gives off a few signals in her face and eyes and it’s on for sure. A male friend comes back and sits down and I chat to him for a bit, and back to her. Then a 2nd male friend comes and sits down. Number closing here would be too obvious I feel , and I don’t know the relationships, and it’s getting a bit complicated, so do a takeaway and leave to get my car which I’ve parked far away , drive it down and park it up the street and do another walk by btw to use the recycling bin nearby and wave over again.

I rejoin the table and have a smoke. One dude has left . I chat a bit more about the city and nightspot there w her. Then when the remaining dude is distracted and chatting to a local passer by , I suggest to her we meet later , take her phone and plug my number in it , and send a text from her phone back to my phone, so it’s a solid number close.

I have made sure and told her my plans for the rest of the day and my whereabouts. We are both sharing this info indirectly throughout the chat as a “by the way” innocent exchange. And all the flirting is done by the eyes and face signals we are exchanging mainly. I only dropped one semi -compliment verbally when she was alone at the start of the pickup.

So I leave then, and text her shortly afterward,
we meet up an hour later at another bar, spend an hour flirting and escalating , and have a few make outs there. I am very hands on and escalating w her in isolation on the terrace alone w her. Then I mention I think I’m gonna stay the night now and need to book a hotel room, she thinks this is a wonderful idea (lol) and verifies she is keen to hang out there.

then I drive her back and fvck her at the hotel . : D

She leaves a few hours later. And I go out for a late dinner . Nice!

So I got laid yesterday off an approach, on a day trip to the country :D
happy days.
Met her around 2:30pm, and she was in the sack about 7pm.
Oh and importantly , she was younger , slim and pretty.

:D whoop whoop.

This Laser Eyes /EC practice is certainly paying off :up::up::up:
That's how you do it! See...no weird stuff needed, just a normal convo...

Like I tell everyone else, simply acting normal has never gotten you laid more than it does today.
 

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That's how you do it! See...no weird stuff needed, just a normal convo...

Like I tell everyone else, simply acting normal has never gotten you laid more than it does today.
well, you did imply earlier some of what I was writing earlier about Eye Contact was ‘weird’ ;)
Re my eye contact role model and my “brother” opener? Pretty sure you banged on both were ‘weird’.:D:p

it’s not really the convo per se,
I mean yeah to the extent as long as is not totally bizarre or totally cringe,

It’s the intense lock-in with the eyes , the ability to read facial expressions and ability to exchange IOI’s.
Which tbh, for guys that may be shy, introverted or inexperienced.. Is gonna feel pretty ‘weird.’

My expression yeaterday would have very much looked similar to this Tbh;

using unwavering Laser-Eyes is my key point.
I’d suspect a lot of inexperienced guys don’t realise this.

and the better looking and sexier the chick.. the harder it gets to hold that EC ime.
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The conversation content can depend on how ‘on’ it is from the get go.
Some chicks like to be Gamey and push-pull flirt and testy etc, which is where all the gamey T&Ts can useful, to try keep some kind of upper hand Yknow? That’s how I see it anyway.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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well, you did imply earlier some of what I was writing earlier about Eye Contact was ‘weird’ ;)
Re my eye contact role model and my “brother” opener? Pretty sure you banged on both were ‘weird’.:D:p

it’s not really the convo per se,
I mean yeah to the extent as long as is not totally bizarre or totally cringe,

It’s the intense lock-in with the eyes , the ability to read facial expressions and ability to exchange IOI’s.
Which tbh, for guys that may be shy, introverted or inexperienced.. Is gonna feel pretty ‘weird.’

My expression yeaterday would have very much looked similar to this Tbh;

using unwavering Laser-Eyes is my key point.
I’d suspect a lot of inexperienced guys don’t realise this.

and the better looking and sexier the chick.. the harder it gets to hold that EC ime.
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The conversation content can depend on how ‘on’ it is from the get go.
Some chicks like to be Gamey and push-pull flirt and testy etc, which is where all the gamey T&Ts can useful, to try keep some kind of upper hand Yknow? That’s how I see it anyway.
No, mostly that what you were opening women with was weird. I use eye contact too, but I don't want to model myself after a serial killer :lol:
 

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No, mostly that what you were opening women with was weird. I use eye contact too, but I don't want to model myself after a serial killer :lol:
tbh.the reason for using Hopkins/ Lector - what I’ve found is , in order to learn a new behaviour ..it’s best for me to model something on the more extreme of that behaviour. (The far right hand side of the scale of behaviour, let’s say) as I may be on the far left introverted side.

Ie-with a guy that is shy ,he’s better practice overshooting the mark . And he’ll likely land somewhere in the middle… of solid EC.

but I will also eat her vagina…With some fava beans ..and a nice Chianti,. Sssffffttttt! :p
 
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no. it’s just about the intensity and locking in the EC.
He’s just my model for it.
It’s about projecting a solid/intense vibe to capture attention , lock in the EC and give the woman a ‘jolt’.

So it should come out looking like this ;
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cos I is handsome ;)
Are u Paul Janka? Lmao - I love Paul Janka - he's my OG coach, the first guy I learned the game from. By the way, loving your thread. It's funny and well-written. I think the other dude was being too autistic/critical. I can see that u probably have good game based on ur writing.
 

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@characternote

I do have a therory of women reacting to a man’s height.. there being an innate hard wired Dom-sub primal response to that. Just his massive height

like, that it triggers arousal immediately.

hence it doesn’t matter what he says, as long as it’s not completely wussy/beta.

be interesting to see if Chad acted like a total pvssy wuss , stuttering and anxious AF. If it would make any difference.

I’m speculating mayhe a way to trigger this response / innate primal thing , as a shorter dude.!is to be massively “boss” and commanding with the voice.

I did roll with a shorter player guy, who had a voice like this. Very “rude” /sneering / bossy tonality when opening. It seemed to trigger that kind of instant compliance … in ch1cks closer to his league tho.

Chicks a bit taller than him ,!but not super tall chicks .

he was pretty handsome too but , so that’s a thing.

but…still his voice tones snapped them to attention I reckon , immediately.

I was out last night at a gig and tried to open a tall chick next to me , “hey hage you seen this band before ?” But she just half sneered and shook her head and gave me nothing.

maybe I ought to have barked it at her with more command-tone.

“hey b1tch! Have you seen this f*cking BAND before?” Haha.

Could’ve used my ‘brother’ opener .. dang.. but it was a bit too loud anyway.
One of the biggest things in the US seems that you have to realize a huge part of the interaction is you piercing her membrane.. It's more like "plowing", you have to go through a ton of mud before u get to the jewel, but I mean inside the interaction itself, if you could be like "very forgiving" and not take the first 25 things she says personally, eventually they can kind of warm up. In other countries, i've noticed they are more respectful and enjoyable to talk to basically right from the beginning.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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