When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Good for the humor factor, bad because you leave things totally in her court. You're not asking her to marry you, you're letting her go on a date with you. Don't ask, tell, hey you should go out with me. Although what you did worked fine for the situation, if you were to actually say that out loud it wouldn't be as powerful as saying "Hey, lets go out"dude156 said:we were bowling and while it was her turn i changed her name to "will you go out with me" and ya
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
heh ya that was that meant but i clarifiedCapt.Jack Sparrow said:What you guys don't realize is that he meant asking them to be his girlfriend
A simple "Will you be my girlfriend?" will do unless you want fancy kind of ****..
I feel weird if I were to say "will you go out with me?" and than she'd be like "where?"
lmao
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dude156 said:sucess.. i did it today
i wrote will you go out with me? (with some backwords letters) and then i put
[ ] yes!
[ ] no...just kidding yes!
[ ] hmmmm lemme think...yes!
but shes going to florida for 2 weeks so she put
dood! kay,i like you butttt wait until i come back from florida? pleeeeeez. then, im down =D
so ya. im not sure but her best friend said cuz got asked out and she has a bf now but hes in ny and she said shes lonely so maybe thats why she wants to wait? i dont have a problem just as long as she doesnt change her mind but if she does then oh well next