"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ways youve asked a girl out
- Thread starter dude156
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Kev07
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HEY COME WITH ME!
where?
duh to junior prom =]
oooook
Good for the humor factor, bad because you leave things totally in her court. You're not asking her to marry you, you're letting her go on a date with you. Don't ask, tell, hey you should go out with me. Although what you did worked fine for the situation, if you were to actually say that out loud it wouldn't be as powerful as saying "Hey, lets go out"dude156 said:
I'm not terribly creative, most of the girls I ask out I just stick to the basics "Hey lets get some coffee" etc
Me(high as a kite): Ey watcha reading there?
Her: [some generic book], why you read?
Me: believe it or not I do, [odd comments about the auther]
her: [laughing] , I'm surpised you never struck me as the litrery type.
Me: yea and I'm straight too, hey lets try out the new cofee flavour at [some eatery].
Her: Ok.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nexxus
Senior Don Juan
baby, you look good, now let's go out and **** afterwards
well something like that lol, you can obviously think about half that sentence
Docs
Banned
*call her, yak at her while simitatously going to her house about random crap*
"Ohh...by the way, I'll be there to pick you up in 5 minutes!"
Michele l'Arcangelo
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I wrote a note saying...
"will U B my soulm8?
[ ] Yes
[ ] No
check 1 of dem."
I spelled a few words wrong... and with a few letters written backwards... but it works wonders.
You MUST try!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
1.Over a game of hang man. It was a yes.
2. Went to the mall early, went to the greeting card store, picked out a congratulations card. Wrote a little note, asked her out in it. Told the clerk to hold on to it for me, gave her some instructions. Later on, brought the girl in there, told her to go ask teh clerk for something, and the clerk gave her the card. It was a yes.
3. ANother card, invited the girl to my house. Put a folded piece of paper in the air hockey table, so when I scored she'd have to reach for it. She ignored the paper so I had to hand it to her. It said
"Bad News: You just got scored on.
Good news: Look under the table."
Underneath the table I taped the card, asking her out. It was a yes.
4. Same girl as #3. Just burnt a CD, some sweet songs, some funny songs (Hot Stuff - Donna Summers, got a good laugh) and the last song was DJ Otzi's version of Hey Baby (Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy heyy baby, i wanna knooooooow, would you be my girl) and played it. As soon as she listened to it she smiled, and said yes.
I pride myself on being creative, even though #4 was kind of lazy.
The Columbus Myth
Don Juan
i asked some girl out a couple days ago (family trip so she couldnt but she did txt me till her battery ran out)
i just said " Hey movies on saturday sound good? just me and u wateva movie u wanna see"
she said "Trip, going to beach w/ maggie and my family soz"
and i said "ok well next time?"
she said "ofcource"
Capt.Jack Sparrow
Master Don Juan
A simple "Will you be my girlfriend?" will do unless you want fancy kind of ****..
I feel weird if I were to say "will you go out with me?" and than she'd be like "where?"
lmao
heh ya that was that meant but i clarifiedCapt.Jack Sparrow said:
its all good
but ya i dont just want to bluntly say...so will you go out with me. thats boring and they seem to like clever ways to ask them rather than boring
but my idea is to, well micheles' is to write a note like he said but put liek all yes answers such as:
will you go out with me bla bla bla
[ ] yes!
[ ] no...just kidding yes!
[ ] ew yes!
or somthing along that line
im gonna probably to this tomorow in class
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
i wrote will you go out with me? (with some backwords letters) and then i put
[ ] yes!
[ ] no...just kidding yes!
[ ] hmmmm lemme think...yes!
but shes going to florida for 2 weeks so she put
dood! kay,i like you butttt wait until i come back from florida? pleeeeeez. then, im down =D
so ya. im not sure but her best friend said cuz got asked out and she has a bf now but hes in ny and she said shes lonely so maybe thats why she wants to wait? i dont have a problem just as long as she doesnt change her mind but if she does then oh well next
The Columbus Myth
Don Juan
dude156 said:
florida rocks!!! i should noe! i mean i been here since B!TCHES!!!!!