Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Good for the humor factor, bad because you leave things totally in her court. You're not asking her to marry you, you're letting her go on a date with you. Don't ask, tell, hey you should go out with me. Although what you did worked fine for the situation, if you were to actually say that out loud it wouldn't be as powerful as saying "Hey, lets go out"dude156 said:we were bowling and while it was her turn i changed her name to "will you go out with me" and ya
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
heh ya that was that meant but i clarifiedCapt.Jack Sparrow said:What you guys don't realize is that he meant asking them to be his girlfriend
A simple "Will you be my girlfriend?" will do unless you want fancy kind of ****..
I feel weird if I were to say "will you go out with me?" and than she'd be like "where?"
lmao
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
dude156 said:sucess.. i did it today
i wrote will you go out with me? (with some backwords letters) and then i put
[ ] yes!
[ ] no...just kidding yes!
[ ] hmmmm lemme think...yes!
but shes going to florida for 2 weeks so she put
dood! kay,i like you butttt wait until i come back from florida? pleeeeeez. then, im down =D
so ya. im not sure but her best friend said cuz got asked out and she has a bf now but hes in ny and she said shes lonely so maybe thats why she wants to wait? i dont have a problem just as long as she doesnt change her mind but if she does then oh well next