You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Good for the humor factor, bad because you leave things totally in her court. You're not asking her to marry you, you're letting her go on a date with you. Don't ask, tell, hey you should go out with me. Although what you did worked fine for the situation, if you were to actually say that out loud it wouldn't be as powerful as saying "Hey, lets go out"dude156 said:we were bowling and while it was her turn i changed her name to "will you go out with me" and ya
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
heh ya that was that meant but i clarifiedCapt.Jack Sparrow said:What you guys don't realize is that he meant asking them to be his girlfriend
A simple "Will you be my girlfriend?" will do unless you want fancy kind of ****..
I feel weird if I were to say "will you go out with me?" and than she'd be like "where?"
lmao
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
dude156 said:sucess.. i did it today
i wrote will you go out with me? (with some backwords letters) and then i put
[ ] yes!
[ ] no...just kidding yes!
[ ] hmmmm lemme think...yes!
but shes going to florida for 2 weeks so she put
dood! kay,i like you butttt wait until i come back from florida? pleeeeeez. then, im down =D
so ya. im not sure but her best friend said cuz got asked out and she has a bf now but hes in ny and she said shes lonely so maybe thats why she wants to wait? i dont have a problem just as long as she doesnt change her mind but if she does then oh well next