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So, with a plate, if she asks what I did the other night, it’s advised for me to be honest and say that I was in a date with another girl?
In my opinion, "interested" women will rarely, if ever, ask, because they do NOT want to know.
 

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In my opinion, "interested" women will rarely, if ever, ask, because they do NOT want to know.
One of my main plates has found long hair that didnt belong to her in my clothes and made some light remarks about it, and I just brushed it off as well. How do you handle situations like this one?
 

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One of my main plates has found long hair that didnt belong to her in my clothes and made some light remarks about it, and I just brushed it off as well. How do you handle situations like this one?
I am most likely always willing to risk losing them.

There are always other girls.
 

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Okay, you should not have a LTR!

Just date 2 girls and sleep with them and never get serious that way you are not doing the dirty on either as they know it is not a relationship.
 

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Ok I'm about to step into this game i think. Being seeing a chick for about 5 months or so now. But i live alone and she lives alone about 10 minutes away. I just want to start exploring other women having been in a miserable LTR a while back. I have always been dead set against cheating but something has clicked in my brain and i want to do this. I've had one date and nothing happened and I'm about to see another girl on Saturday. Any advice guys?
 

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Ok I'm about to step into this game i think. Being seeing a chick for about 5 months or so now. But i live alone and she lives alone about 10 minutes away. I just want to start exploring other women having been in a miserable LTR a while back. I have always been dead set against cheating but something has clicked in my brain and i want to do this. I've had one date and nothing happened and I'm about to see another girl on Saturday. Any advice guys?
My advice is that if you are in a relationship , don't cheat. Just be single and date as many girls as you want.

Sleeping with more than two women is bloody hard work! Some women can sense if you are ****ing other girls, they have their ways to find out.

Always remember their names and backstory, so don't mix it up as you will get found out! Watch out for their perfume, lipstick. Those are giveaways.

Your GF or Wife will start to suspect you, she will usually find out eventually.
 

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Ok I'm about to step into this game i think.

Any advice guys?
Ok Judgements aside.

Having multiple plates can basically be similar to what OP is saying.

- Make sure you meet up somewhere far from your LTR(20+ min is safe)
- Make sure you have additional clothes in your car(women can smell other women on you or their hair sticks to you)
- Make sure you're always wearing cologne or body spray and keep one in your car(masks other women's scent/perfume)
- Make sure you keep some breath strips in your carr(especially if you like eating pvssy. LOL)
- Make sure you use alternate number like Google Voice(turn off the notifications though)
- Make sure you have portable 12v Vacuum and also lint roller for your clothes(women's hairs sticks everywhere)
- If you have a beard, make sure you wash it good before returning or seeing the next one.(Lot of smells and fluids can get trapped in there)
- Always meet at her place when possible. (minimizes any evidence)
- Get used to taking showers afterwards. (Just tell your other girl that you are OCD about staying clean)
- Don't be on social media(facial recognition/tagging)
- Do not take selfies with the other girl(facial recognition/tagging/evidence)
- Always have backup condoms stashed in a secret place in your car(that way your main doesn't keep track of your condom inventory)
- Be congruent with your behavior. Often times guys that have done something wrong or feel guilty end up being overly nice and cheery to their main. Women definitely pickup on this and get suspicious
- Learn to have excuses/stories that tie into something that really happened. It's easier that way to remember your lies.
For example: Excuse: "I can't stay that long tomorrow as I have to go to a buddy's birthday party" Reality: You are going to celebrate your main's birthday. This is similar enough to easily remember though for future reference.
Once you get sloppy, you're gonna get caught and it's game over. If you're not a details oriented ocd type person, you've already lost and will eventually get caught. Just a FYI
 

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My advice is that if you are in a relationship , don't cheat. Just be single and date as many girls as you want.
Such advice won't be followed. Similar advice in this thread is beating a dead horse.

What @cola, @Max Baker, and others have already done is either accepted the moral implications of their desire, or totally don't care, and want to do what they want to do. You don't have to agree with them.

@cola isn't seeking feedback on the ethics of his choices, rather he's more interest on getting input on how he could fulfil his desire to have his cake and eat it too.

Y'all in the "Don't cheat" and "Real men this, real man that" crowd are just pushing your morals onto the OP. While I personally believe morals are subjective for the most part, I concede that most people would align in camps that wouldn't encourage OP's desires. But he doesn't care.
 

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Do not judge.

You have gone through the motions, been at this game for years and finally found a good, healthy LTR.
But once in a while you crave another woman, yet at the same time have no interest in leaving your LTR.

How would you go about it, how are the rules different? How would you maneuver around bedding an occasional stray if you and your girl live together, or are so close that “pop ups” are now acceptable?

and I don’t wanna hear “don’t do it”, “a man keeps his word” or none of that white knight, Disney movie Prince Charming bs.
Anyways, you have more experience than me @cola, but off the top of my head I would offer the following advice:

If you're going to cheat,
- Do it outside of the city/s you and your gf reside, do not do it at your own place
- Use WhatsApp or a more discreet avenue to communicate with any girl you intend to bed; have a separate e-mail address for any dating apps, and delete history & the app when you're not using it
- Pay cash for anything relevant to the activities that involve the side piece -- make sure these items cannot be discovered by your gf and throw away your receipts
- Ideally make it a one night stand, or a handful of lays with one particular chick at most
- Don't let your side piece know your real last name, or where you live, or where you work
- Ghost your side piece if she is getting overly attached.... she will sabotage your relationship
- Don't mess with mutual friends of yours and your gf
- Don't mess with co-workers, or anyone in your social circle, or who you have to see regularly
- Don't tell anyone about your illicit affairs unless it's a best friend you literally trust with your life
- Have a viable alibi ready that she cannot disprove (this probably one of the most important ones)
- If your girlfriend grows suspicious and confronts you, don't be defensive, rather be uninterested in the conversation and ignore it if she doesn't push the issue... if she does, you can admit it if you want... it might go well, it might now. Alternatively, you can gaslight her. Is gaslighting moral? Probably not... Neither is cheating. Where you draw your own subjective ethical line is up to you.
- If she presents you with cold hard evidence of your shenanigans, you probably failed to follow one of the aforementioned points


Caveat: if you think you will feel bad after cheating, and that will regret it, DON'T DO IT. If you thought you wouldn't regret it but you ultimately did, DON'T DO IT AGAIN. Unless you are a sociopathic to some degree, there's a good chance that it will eat at your conscience to some extent, at least for a little while.
 

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Do not judge.

You have gone through the motions, been at this game for years and finally found a good, healthy LTR.
But once in a while you crave another woman, yet at the same time have no interest in leaving your LTR.

How would you go about it, how are the rules different? How would you maneuver around bedding an occasional stray if you and your girl live together, or are so close that “pop ups” are now acceptable?

and I don’t wanna hear “don’t do it”, “a man keeps his word” or none of that white knight, Disney movie Prince Charming bs.
You will get caught (eventually) and it will destroy your LTR - her ability to trust you will die (and with that, her Respect - this is the deathblow to an LTR). If you want to bang random women then you have to man-up and be single. You can't have a sham-monogamous LTR and bang other women. It's a choice. You can't be committed and not-committed at the same time.

Speaking from experience here..
 

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Just have multiple open relationships, that way you get all the sex and affection that guys usually desire
 

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I think some guys want to get caught. the thrill of getting away with it is part of their fun....
 

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I've set the ground rules from the start with my girl. Not living together, and we see each other 3 to 4 times a week. When she does pop in its only usually for half an hour. I've told her that some weekends I'll be doing stuff with my mates etc. She's cool with that. Sometimes she's got stuff on too. I've come out of two toxic relationships in a row totaling 11 years combined. And as i said earlier i know its technically wrong to be seeing and banging side chicks, i also feel i owe it to myself to get the best possible girl for me. I will be careful because not living with a chick makes it a hell of a lot easier. There's nothing of hers at my place and i won't be allowing a side chick to leave anything either. I'll be mentioning going to her house instead.
Edit. I'll also add she doesn't know any of my mates or has met my family at this stage.
 
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I've set the ground rules from the start with my girl. Not living together, and we see each other 3 to 4 times a week. When she does pop in its only usually for half an hour. I've told her that some weekends I'll be doing stuff with my mates etc. She's cool with that. Sometimes she's got stuff on too. I've come out of two toxic relationships in a row totaling 11 years combined. And as i said earlier i know its technically wrong to be seeing and banging side chicks, i also feel i owe it to myself to get the best possible girl for me. I will be careful because not living with a chick makes it a hell of a lot easier. There's nothing of hers at my place and i won't be allowing a side chick to leave anything either. I'll be mentioning going to her house instead.
Edit. I'll also add she doesn't know any of my mates or has met my family at this stage.
Eleven year's. That's a long time.
 

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It was bro. It's been very hard re wiring my brain and a lot to get over and process. But I'm on the other side now. Cutting the latest ex out of my life was an important step.
Its a process that needs documenting. It takes time and rules.
 

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You will get caught (eventually) and it will destroy your LTR - her ability to trust you will die (and with that, her Respect - this is the deathblow to an LTR). If you want to bang random women then you have to man-up and be single. You can't have a sham-monogamous LTR and bang other women. It's a choice. You can't be committed and not-committed at the same time.

Speaking from experience here..
That’s a lie. I’ve never had a woman leave me for cheating on her. If anything it makes them like you more. They are deranged like that.

They lose respect for you because you got caught cheating and groveled and begged for forgiveness.
 
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