Master Don Juan
- Dec 16, 2015
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I agree with you in a general sense. The men I know who are doing this successfully are highly desirable men, handsome, successful, sought after. I know 4 who immediately come to mind. Each has sufficient value to be able to dictate the terms of his relationship. And so they do. One lives with a beautiful physician, one lives with an pretty Asian finance professional in Upper East Side NYC, one is a financier in the SF Bay Area, whose spouse could model, and one is local to me (my playboy buddy I pal around with).My experience is women who are even high interest will put up with this only for a limited amount of time before some combination of their insecurity from it and social pressures will make them cut it off. It's been awhile, but I had some relationships like this when I was younger where I was seeing multiple people and made them aware I was sleeping with more women than just them. That wasn't, however, a true LTR - and I feel like the examples you cite above are likely predominantly also in a more laid back relationship and not a true monogamous, LTR.
As far as a LTR, which I think is kind of the background @cola is referencing in the OP since he is talking about "side-b1tch" game which indicates this isn't really plate spinning, I think this would be next to impossible to maintain especially if this is not how the relationship has historically operated. I can't imagine coming up to my partner of a long period of time who I have been monogamous with and suddenly telling her "I am going to start fu*king this other woman. Take it or leave it. If you aren't ok with it don't let the door hit you on the way out" -- and thinking she is going to stick around. Maybe you can pull it off if they are also into an "open" relationship but that is really what it comes down to. If they aren't I don't think most women will stay in the LTR at that point while you are off with another woman off and on. No matter how alpha you are.
The men have THAT much value. All are open about how they exist. They are not going to be dictated to by any woman or shamed into doing differently because of some social construct. Yes they lose or have lost in the past some women who were not on board...but those women lost access to top tier men as well. Three of these men are serious multimillionaires (all 3 are in 10+ year relationships), all are emotionally loyal to the primary partner, and so on.
My close friend is actively screening for a woman who will love & accept him as he exists, and right now his greatest emotional investment is in me, but that will organically change when he finds the right match for himself.
This is about real abundance. Beautiful women are everywhere. Each of these men is well accustomed to beautiful women. Sex is a commodity. Novelty has its place, but these men have so much abundance (IDGAF and no fear of loss), that they can build intimacy and trust with the primary partner while having novelty openly on the side.