Murk
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Yes marriage too, I told her some prenup might be in place and she is not bothered by that (green flag).
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not sexually interested in current LTR
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
EyeBRollin
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Just an FYI-divorce rate is significantly higher among couples that cohabitate prior to marriage.
Murk
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Hmm that’s interesting. I feel we need the cohabitation to see if this can work, I’ve never lived with a gf before. I might get sick of her and not want this after 6 months.
EyeBRollin
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Are you looking to make things work or looking to get rid of her? Sounds like the latter…
Murk
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I’m looking to see if my fear of commitment is pushing a good woman away, someone who I know I love.
Isn’t moving in like a litmus test of a relationship? Maybe deep down I’m just buying some extra time, I’m definitely open to going all the way with this though.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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No. It is not. Usually it is the planned death of a relationship.
Bokanovsky
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Not a difficult choice.
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She doesn't have to be a supermodel but you shouldn't feel like you could do much better either.
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Agreed. No point in living together unless you have kids.
Thanks for the replies, good advice in here.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.
New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.
Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.
Blinded by her looks I guess.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.
New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.
Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.
Blinded by her looks I guess.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.