Murk
Master Don Juan
Yes marriage too, I told her some prenup might be in place and she is not bothered by that (green flag).
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not sexually interested in current LTR
- Thread starter svencandy
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
EyeBRollin
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 18, 2015
- Messages
- 10,536
- Reaction score
- 8,536
- Age
- 37
Just an FYI-divorce rate is significantly higher among couples that cohabitate prior to marriage.
Murk
Master Don Juan
Hmm that’s interesting. I feel we need the cohabitation to see if this can work, I’ve never lived with a gf before. I might get sick of her and not want this after 6 months.
EyeBRollin
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 18, 2015
- Messages
- 10,536
- Reaction score
- 8,536
- Age
- 37
Are you looking to make things work or looking to get rid of her? Sounds like the latter…
Murk
Master Don Juan
I’m looking to see if my fear of commitment is pushing a good woman away, someone who I know I love.
Isn’t moving in like a litmus test of a relationship? Maybe deep down I’m just buying some extra time, I’m definitely open to going all the way with this though.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
EyeBRollin
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 18, 2015
- Messages
- 10,536
- Reaction score
- 8,536
- Age
- 37
No. It is not. Usually it is the planned death of a relationship.
Bokanovsky
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 7, 2012
- Messages
- 5,519
- Reaction score
- 5,697
Not a difficult choice.
Bokanovsky
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 7, 2012
- Messages
- 5,519
- Reaction score
- 5,697
She doesn't have to be a supermodel but you shouldn't feel like you could do much better either.
Bokanovsky
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 7, 2012
- Messages
- 5,519
- Reaction score
- 5,697
Agreed. No point in living together unless you have kids.
Thanks for the replies, good advice in here.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.
New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.
Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.
Blinded by her looks I guess.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.
New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.
Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.
Blinded by her looks I guess.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.