Murk
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Yes marriage too, I told her some prenup might be in place and she is not bothered by that (green flag).
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not sexually interested in current LTR
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
EyeBRollin
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Just an FYI-divorce rate is significantly higher among couples that cohabitate prior to marriage.
Murk
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Hmm that’s interesting. I feel we need the cohabitation to see if this can work, I’ve never lived with a gf before. I might get sick of her and not want this after 6 months.
EyeBRollin
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Are you looking to make things work or looking to get rid of her? Sounds like the latter…
Murk
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I’m looking to see if my fear of commitment is pushing a good woman away, someone who I know I love.
Isn’t moving in like a litmus test of a relationship? Maybe deep down I’m just buying some extra time, I’m definitely open to going all the way with this though.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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No. It is not. Usually it is the planned death of a relationship.
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Not a difficult choice.
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She doesn't have to be a supermodel but you shouldn't feel like you could do much better either.
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Agreed. No point in living together unless you have kids.
Thanks for the replies, good advice in here.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.
New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.
Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.
Blinded by her looks I guess.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.
New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.
Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.
Blinded by her looks I guess.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.