Murk
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Yes marriage too, I told her some prenup might be in place and she is not bothered by that (green flag).
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not sexually interested in current LTR
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
EyeBRollin
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Just an FYI-divorce rate is significantly higher among couples that cohabitate prior to marriage.
Murk
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Hmm that’s interesting. I feel we need the cohabitation to see if this can work, I’ve never lived with a gf before. I might get sick of her and not want this after 6 months.
EyeBRollin
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Are you looking to make things work or looking to get rid of her? Sounds like the latter…
Murk
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I’m looking to see if my fear of commitment is pushing a good woman away, someone who I know I love.
Isn’t moving in like a litmus test of a relationship? Maybe deep down I’m just buying some extra time, I’m definitely open to going all the way with this though.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
EyeBRollin
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No. It is not. Usually it is the planned death of a relationship.
Bokanovsky
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Not a difficult choice.
Bokanovsky
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She doesn't have to be a supermodel but you shouldn't feel like you could do much better either.
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Agreed. No point in living together unless you have kids.
Thanks for the replies, good advice in here.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.
New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.
Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.
Blinded by her looks I guess.
It's officially over. Guess I'll try to upload some field reports.
New relationship experience, it's a natural thing, for natural purposes.
Her negative attitude and treating those lower than her has always been there, but gets worse as she moves up the ladder.
Blinded by her looks I guess.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.