No, he’s a victim of emotional abuse and beat down by it…It just feels implausible that a healthy person would find themselves in a situation like this. So I assume he's codependent.
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No, he’s a victim of emotional abuse and beat down by it…It just feels implausible that a healthy person would find themselves in a situation like this. So I assume he's codependent.
Oh no he's not healthy. His Mom basically abandoned him when she ran off with her younger toyboy lover when he was around 10. He was always a quiet kid. Wouldn't say boo to to a goose kind of thing.It just feels implausible that a healthy person would find themselves in a situation like this. So I assume he's codependent.
You might think so, but....No, he’s a victim of emotional abuse and beat down by it…
I rest my case. The guy is a codependent wreck himself, and that's how they found each other.Oh no he's not healthy. His Mom basically abandoned him when she ran off with her younger toyboy lover when he was around 10. He was always a quiet kid. Wouldn't say boo to to a goose kind of thing.
So you obviously think young child abandonment by a mother doesn’t cause emotional abuse or injury…You might think so, but....
I rest my case. The guy is a codependent wreck himself, and that's how they found each other.
Nah, I thought that he was already damaged before he met his wife and it wasn't the wife who turned him from hero to zero and codependence, and indeed that was the case.So you obviously think young child abandonment by a mother doesn’t cause emotional abuse or injury…
He was abandoned by the mother and now wifey abandons him to go bang other men.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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From what I understand it's his first relationship.Nah, I thought that he was already damaged before he met his wife and it wasn't the wife who turned him from hero to zero and codependence, and indeed that was the case.
Yes his unhealthy codependence was started by the emotional damage done by the mother, and now he’s getting downright emotional abuse from his wife. Codependence always has a causative factor involved…Nah, I thought that he was already damaged before he met his wife and it wasn't the wife who turned him from hero to zero and codependence, and indeed that was the case.
The seeds were sown in childhood and his wife watered them.Yes his unhealthy codependence was started by the emotional damage done by the mother, and now he’s getting downright emotional abuse from his wife. Codependence always has a causative factor involved…
I find it hard to have sympathy in these cases. You can't help someone who sabotages themselves knowingly.Also years ago before they got married she cheated on him with another Woman so this is definitely not a post marriage thing.
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
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You call him codependent but don’t realize it has psychological implications and now you say he sabotages himself… smhI find it hard to have sympathy in these cases. You can't help someone who sabotages themselves knowingly.
That's why I stay way out of it. Haven't seen him since he was 12 ish. He knows the score but also knows he won't see his kids again if he leaves her. She's already made that clearI find it hard to have sympathy in these cases. You can't help someone who sabotages themselves knowingly.