Cheeky_James
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
CJs cold approach journal
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- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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It’s time to channel some of this guy
RESPECT .. the C0ck
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And TAAAAAAME the Cvnt! (Cracks invisible whip)
RESPECT .. the C0ck
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And TAAAAAAME the Cvnt! (Cracks invisible whip)
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Man I wish my lil Brazilian wingman was here.
He was a fearless and Sleaxy bastard .lol
Looked like a short Raul Julia and could open anywhere. I miss that lil fvcker .
He was a fearless and Sleaxy bastard .lol
Looked like a short Raul Julia and could open anywhere. I miss that lil fvcker .
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Opened one chick tonite tonight.
She was the opposite of a Butter-face.
a butter-body.
Her face was instgram worthy tho . Wow.
now I’m waiting for some drunk hinge chick to make up her mind on a late night booty call in the city .
drunk chicks man….
too old for this sh1t!
She was the opposite of a Butter-face.
a butter-body.
Her face was instgram worthy tho . Wow.
now I’m waiting for some drunk hinge chick to make up her mind on a late night booty call in the city .
drunk chicks man….
too old for this sh1t!
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I had 2 pints and a few soft drinks over the course of the night from 6:30pm (had a date) to 12am .
But yeah definitely weight gain is an issue.
back in the day it was a struggle going out 2-3 nights each weekend guzzling beer and liquor plus fast food in the wee hours.
last night I only did 2 cold approaches in the end up. I was solo until about 10:30pm which was a problem mentally for me.
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Review of last night and observations ;
pretty busy “cool” bar with a venue next door and a big name DJ playing so lots of hot ladies and cool guys floating around. I have not been out trying nightgame in quite a while
I was moving between the bar (inside) and the verandah outaide on the street next to the venue and the queue outaide there. Street was busy
general observations
- bar staff were 2 trendy dressed tall gay dudes and 2 hipster chicks.
- lots of people and lots of cliques of 3-4 mixed ppl at tables.
- 2 hot chicks 1 Asian 1 white I sat next to but they were deep in convo about some dating /man drama. I really liked the Asian and she observed me possibly IOI/liked me but I did not open cos they was busy furiously talking. They left soon after. Meh.
- tried talking to some older unattractive chick just for conversation but she was drunk or stoned and didn’t give me much and turned away.
- chicks inside bar in pairs but very young for me, too young. Could see them looking at me judging as I was solo until 10:30pm
- tons of hot chicks walking past bar and lining up to venue , but either with hot dudes or in mixed cliques with hot dudes.
- almost every hot chick was usually with a hot tall Chad dude …or 2 or 3 such dudes in a clique. Either tall or big framed well dressed dudes.
- the bathroom of the bar I nicknamed “the white room” as I suspect everyone doing Coke in the toilet stalls . Multiple voices and ppl coming in /out of toilets.
- lots of folks on drugs coming in/out of venue.
- general druggy atmosphere and venue crowd mostly on drugs
- someone smoking a joint in the verandah crowd one section stank of weed
- opened a chick with a 9/10 face but a butter body on a smoke break from the gig. She’d had a bit of coke, and pretty chatty
Could have possibly got her number but figured I’d see her later maybe. I left before gig was over, plus she was sizeable, so no .
- did continually notice that the cliques all had hot dudes present and the “cliquey” cold vibe around the groups.
- took a pic of the DJ he was cool.
- tried to sit next to a chick in a corner on one end who was talking to another high but attractive chick on a smoke break , corner chick must have sussed out my plan and quickly put her feet up on the chair between us and ****blocked me from getting close to talk. Meh
- my friend arrived finally around 10:30/10:45
- 2 hot bodied very b1tchy looking chicks were standing across 2 sets of tables from us , we scoped them out and watched a fat Indian PUA type guy open and talk to them.
I had been watching this guy moving around and opening a few sets during the evening, and getting nowhere . He was chubby short and very dark skinned. His smv would be low I judged.
I will continue with details about these 2 chicks and the possible approach of them.
pretty busy “cool” bar with a venue next door and a big name DJ playing so lots of hot ladies and cool guys floating around. I have not been out trying nightgame in quite a while
I was moving between the bar (inside) and the verandah outaide on the street next to the venue and the queue outaide there. Street was busy
general observations
- bar staff were 2 trendy dressed tall gay dudes and 2 hipster chicks.
- lots of people and lots of cliques of 3-4 mixed ppl at tables.
- 2 hot chicks 1 Asian 1 white I sat next to but they were deep in convo about some dating /man drama. I really liked the Asian and she observed me possibly IOI/liked me but I did not open cos they was busy furiously talking. They left soon after. Meh.
- tried talking to some older unattractive chick just for conversation but she was drunk or stoned and didn’t give me much and turned away.
- chicks inside bar in pairs but very young for me, too young. Could see them looking at me judging as I was solo until 10:30pm
- tons of hot chicks walking past bar and lining up to venue , but either with hot dudes or in mixed cliques with hot dudes.
- almost every hot chick was usually with a hot tall Chad dude …or 2 or 3 such dudes in a clique. Either tall or big framed well dressed dudes.
- the bathroom of the bar I nicknamed “the white room” as I suspect everyone doing Coke in the toilet stalls . Multiple voices and ppl coming in /out of toilets.
- lots of folks on drugs coming in/out of venue.
- general druggy atmosphere and venue crowd mostly on drugs
- someone smoking a joint in the verandah crowd one section stank of weed
- opened a chick with a 9/10 face but a butter body on a smoke break from the gig. She’d had a bit of coke, and pretty chatty
Could have possibly got her number but figured I’d see her later maybe. I left before gig was over, plus she was sizeable, so no .
- did continually notice that the cliques all had hot dudes present and the “cliquey” cold vibe around the groups.
- took a pic of the DJ he was cool.
- tried to sit next to a chick in a corner on one end who was talking to another high but attractive chick on a smoke break , corner chick must have sussed out my plan and quickly put her feet up on the chair between us and ****blocked me from getting close to talk. Meh
- my friend arrived finally around 10:30/10:45
- 2 hot bodied very b1tchy looking chicks were standing across 2 sets of tables from us , we scoped them out and watched a fat Indian PUA type guy open and talk to them.
I had been watching this guy moving around and opening a few sets during the evening, and getting nowhere . He was chubby short and very dark skinned. His smv would be low I judged.
I will continue with details about these 2 chicks and the possible approach of them.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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your welcome - I hope it helps some guys tbh.
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Just use AI to transcribe them in seconds.@Slag
I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
So I’m preparing some audio reports to put on a secure Soundcloud account to share here for a listen. So watch dis space.
like the username btw
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Nah I’m gonna do some audios.
It’s gives more context and explanation.
Otherwise the posts are gonna be super massive.
I’m not a writer .
It’s gives more context and explanation.
Otherwise the posts are gonna be super massive.
I’m not a writer .
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So in continuation re my night out and 2 hot chicks I saw worth an approach.
-2 older ladies in my age bracket
- both very fit /hot bodied , plus 1 had lovely fake tits and a better face than the other
- in tight body stocking dresses and super glammed up, hair make up, heels etc they looked sexy AF
- both had very sexy, very b1tchy looking faces (RBF ->resting b1tch face). big time.
Both were total b1tches was my assessment .
-Italiano or Greek background possibly
- I watched an Indian PUA type guy open them try entertain them and get blown out as I observed them.
For reference bodies and dressed like this;
With faces like this ;
there was a small window to approach them.
But I stalled out racking my brain for the best strategy , and have been pondering it since , overnight
so… what is the best approach on 2 hot bodied bitchy faced chicks like this??
Open question for the DJs here following my journal.
@CharmingPsychopath would love your take and a few bullet points on your possible approach.
@Bigpapa your approach ideas too.
-2 older ladies in my age bracket
- both very fit /hot bodied , plus 1 had lovely fake tits and a better face than the other
- in tight body stocking dresses and super glammed up, hair make up, heels etc they looked sexy AF
- both had very sexy, very b1tchy looking faces (RBF ->resting b1tch face). big time.
Both were total b1tches was my assessment .
-Italiano or Greek background possibly
- I watched an Indian PUA type guy open them try entertain them and get blown out as I observed them.
For reference bodies and dressed like this;
With faces like this ;
there was a small window to approach them.
But I stalled out racking my brain for the best strategy , and have been pondering it since , overnight
so… what is the best approach on 2 hot bodied bitchy faced chicks like this??
Open question for the DJs here following my journal.
@CharmingPsychopath would love your take and a few bullet points on your possible approach.
@Bigpapa your approach ideas too.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.
I keep a few journals for some of my endeavors, and can appreciate the time and effort it takes to recap a night out.
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I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)
And it should be much easier and faster for me w audio musings.
I may have to add some voice distortion tho , for privacy.
btw see above post #75 w pics of 2 chicks.
How would you approach them Slag?