"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It’s time to channel some of this guy

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RESPECT .. the C0ck
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And TAAAAAAME the Cvnt! (Cracks invisible whip):rofl:
 
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Man I wish my lil Brazilian wingman was here.
He was a fearless and Sleaxy bastard .lol
Looked like a short Raul Julia and could open anywhere. I miss that lil fvcker .:rofl::cry:

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Opened one chick tonite tonight.
She was the opposite of a Butter-face.

a butter-body.
Her face was instgram worthy tho . Wow.

now I’m waiting for some drunk hinge chick to make up her mind on a late night booty call in the city .

drunk chicks man….

too old for this sh1t!
 

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How much are you drinking on these excursions?

Be careful the weight doesn't creep on...
I had 2 pints and a few soft drinks over the course of the night from 6:30pm (had a date) to 12am .

But yeah definitely weight gain is an issue.
back in the day it was a struggle going out 2-3 nights each weekend guzzling beer and liquor plus fast food in the wee hours.:eek:

last night I only did 2 cold approaches in the end up. I was solo until about 10:30pm which was a problem mentally for me.
 

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Review of last night and observations ;

pretty busy “cool” bar with a venue next door and a big name DJ playing so lots of hot ladies and cool guys floating around. I have not been out trying nightgame in quite a while

I was moving between the bar (inside) and the verandah outaide on the street next to the venue and the queue outaide there. Street was busy

general observations
- bar staff were 2 trendy dressed tall gay dudes and 2 hipster chicks.
- lots of people and lots of cliques of 3-4 mixed ppl at tables.
- 2 hot chicks 1 Asian 1 white I sat next to but they were deep in convo about some dating /man drama. I really liked the Asian and she observed me possibly IOI/liked me but I did not open cos they was busy furiously talking. They left soon after. Meh.

- tried talking to some older unattractive chick just for conversation but she was drunk or stoned and didn’t give me much and turned away.
- chicks inside bar in pairs but very young for me, too young. Could see them looking at me judging as I was solo until 10:30pm

- tons of hot chicks walking past bar and lining up to venue , but either with hot dudes or in mixed cliques with hot dudes.

- almost every hot chick was usually with a hot tall Chad dude …or 2 or 3 such dudes in a clique. Either tall or big framed well dressed dudes.

- the bathroom of the bar I nicknamed “the white room” as I suspect everyone doing Coke in the toilet stalls . Multiple voices and ppl coming in /out of toilets.

- lots of folks on drugs coming in/out of venue.
- general druggy atmosphere and venue crowd mostly on drugs
- someone smoking a joint in the verandah crowd one section stank of weed

- opened a chick with a 9/10 face but a butter body on a smoke break from the gig. She’d had a bit of coke, and pretty chatty
Could have possibly got her number but figured I’d see her later maybe. I left before gig was over, plus she was sizeable, so no .

- did continually notice that the cliques all had hot dudes present and the “cliquey” cold vibe around the groups.

- took a pic of the DJ he was cool.
- tried to sit next to a chick in a corner on one end who was talking to another high but attractive chick on a smoke break , corner chick must have sussed out my plan and quickly put her feet up on the chair between us and ****blocked me from getting close to talk. Meh

- my friend arrived finally around 10:30/10:45

- 2 hot bodied very b1tchy looking chicks were standing across 2 sets of tables from us , we scoped them out and watched a fat Indian PUA type guy open and talk to them.
I had been watching this guy moving around and opening a few sets during the evening, and getting nowhere . He was chubby short and very dark skinned. His smv would be low I judged.

I will continue with details about these 2 chicks and the possible approach of them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@Slag
I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
So I’m preparing some audio reports to put on a secure Soundcloud account to share here for a listen. So watch dis space.

like the username btw :p:D:cool:
 

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Nah I’m gonna do some audios.
It’s gives more context and explanation.
Otherwise the posts are gonna be super massive.
I’m not a writer .
 

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So in continuation re my night out and 2 hot chicks I saw worth an approach.

-2 older ladies in my age bracket

- both very fit /hot bodied , plus 1 had lovely fake tits and a better face than the other

- in tight body stocking dresses and super glammed up, hair make up, heels etc they looked sexy AF

- both had very sexy, very b1tchy looking faces (RBF ->resting b1tch face). big time.
Both were total b1tches was my assessment .

-Italiano or Greek background possibly

- I watched an Indian PUA type guy open them try entertain them and get blown out as I observed them.

For reference bodies and dressed like this;
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With faces like this ;
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there was a small window to approach them.
But I stalled out racking my brain for the best strategy , and have been pondering it since , overnight :lol::rolleyes::cry:

so… what is the best approach on 2 hot bodied bitchy faced chicks like this??
Open question for the DJs here following my journal.

@CharmingPsychopath would love your take and a few bullet points on your possible approach.

@Bigpapa your approach ideas too.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.

I keep a few journals for some of my endeavors, and can appreciate the time and effort it takes to recap a night out.
 

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The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.

I keep a few journals for some of my endeavors, and can appreciate the time and effort it takes to recap a night out.
I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)
And it should be much easier and faster for me w audio musings.

I may have to add some voice distortion tho , for privacy.

btw see above post #75 w pics of 2 chicks.
How would you approach them Slag?
 

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I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)
And it should be much easier and faster for me w audio musings.

I may have to add some voice distortion tho , for privacy.

btw see above post #75 w pics of 2 chicks.
How would you approach them Slag?
Don't answer him, Slag.

FFS CJ IF THEY ARE ITALIAN, YOU DON'T

You don't want to end up like @jhonny9546. Leave them alone.
 

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Don't answer him, Slag.

FFS CJ IF THEY ARE ITALIAN, YOU DON'T

You don't want to end up like @jhonny9546. Leave them alone.
FFS Billy… I was expecting this kind of response tbh.
There’s always lots of nitpicking/deflection/negation/ reframing on this forum. Makes me wonder tbh.:rolleyes:

I don’t know WHAT background they are I didn’t speak to them in the end. They are aussies of some kind of Euro background afaics. They were 2 sexy b1tches as per the pictures examples.

just answer the question based on the information supplied and how would YOU approach,
And don’t chicken out. Give me 5 minutes quick bullet points .. if you actually have any IRL skill that is .:D:p I’m doubtin’
 
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FFS Billy… I was expecting this kind of response tbh.
There’s always lots of nitpicking/deflection/negation/ reframing on this forum. Makes me wonder tbh.:rolleyes:

I don’t know WHAT background they are I didn’t speak to them in the end. They are aussies of some kind of Euro background afaics. They were 2 sexy b1tches as per the pictures examples.

just answer the question based on the information supplied and how would YOU approach,
And don’t chicken out. Give me 5 minutes quick bullet points .. if you actually have any IRL skill that is .:D:p I’m doubtin’
I tend to avoid women with resting b1tch faces. Why th would I approach? You yourself described them as "total bitches". The women you described are out to get validated first and foremost. I'd shoot the sh1t with them or troll to amuse myself but a fool would play into their game. Do you approach saltwater crocs at the billabong?

Learn your women groups. Euro women in non-euro western countries tend to overvalue themselves bc they somehow think they're higher status than the women in their home countries who are "stuck there".

Barry Sanders btw was a bad running back because he never tried his hand dodging oncoming cars on the freeway. Right, CJ?

It's as big of a waste of time to engage in obvious b1tches just as it is to engage in petty argument with strangers on the internet.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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