Cheeky_James
Master Don Juan
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I had 2 pints and a few soft drinks over the course of the night from 6:30pm (had a date) to 12am .How much are you drinking on these excursions?
Be careful the weight doesn't creep on...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
your welcome - I hope it helps some guys tbh.Love reading these field reports, CJ, very informative
Just use AI to transcribe them in seconds.@Slag
I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
So I’m preparing some audio reports to put on a secure Soundcloud account to share here for a listen. So watch dis space.
like the username btw![]()
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.
I keep a few journals for some of my endeavors, and can appreciate the time and effort it takes to recap a night out.
Don't answer him, Slag.I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)
And it should be much easier and faster for me w audio musings.
I may have to add some voice distortion tho , for privacy.
btw see above post #75 w pics of 2 chicks.
How would you approach them Slag?
FFS Billy… I was expecting this kind of response tbh.Don't answer him, Slag.
FFS CJ IF THEY ARE ITALIAN, YOU DON'T
You don't want to end up like @jhonny9546. Leave them alone.
I tend to avoid women with resting b1tch faces. Why th would I approach? You yourself described them as "total bitches". The women you described are out to get validated first and foremost. I'd shoot the sh1t with them or troll to amuse myself but a fool would play into their game. Do you approach saltwater crocs at the billabong?FFS Billy… I was expecting this kind of response tbh.
There’s always lots of nitpicking/deflection/negation/ reframing on this forum. Makes me wonder tbh.
I don’t know WHAT background they are I didn’t speak to them in the end. They are aussies of some kind of Euro background afaics. They were 2 sexy b1tches as per the pictures examples.
just answer the question based on the information supplied and how would YOU approach,
And don’t chicken out. Give me 5 minutes quick bullet points .. if you actually have any IRL skill that is .I’m doubtin’
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.