Cheeky_James
Master Don Juan
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- Aug 16, 2025
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- 42
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I had 2 pints and a few soft drinks over the course of the night from 6:30pm (had a date) to 12am .How much are you drinking on these excursions?
Be careful the weight doesn't creep on...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
your welcome - I hope it helps some guys tbh.Love reading these field reports, CJ, very informative
Just use AI to transcribe them in seconds.@Slag
I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
So I’m preparing some audio reports to put on a secure Soundcloud account to share here for a listen. So watch dis space.
like the username btw![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.
I keep a few journals for some of my endeavors, and can appreciate the time and effort it takes to recap a night out.
Don't answer him, Slag.I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)
And it should be much easier and faster for me w audio musings.
I may have to add some voice distortion tho , for privacy.
btw see above post #75 w pics of 2 chicks.
How would you approach them Slag?
FFS Billy… I was expecting this kind of response tbh.Don't answer him, Slag.
FFS CJ IF THEY ARE ITALIAN, YOU DON'T
You don't want to end up like @jhonny9546. Leave them alone.
I tend to avoid women with resting b1tch faces. Why th would I approach? You yourself described them as "total bitches". The women you described are out to get validated first and foremost. I'd shoot the sh1t with them or troll to amuse myself but a fool would play into their game. Do you approach saltwater crocs at the billabong?FFS Billy… I was expecting this kind of response tbh.
There’s always lots of nitpicking/deflection/negation/ reframing on this forum. Makes me wonder tbh.
I don’t know WHAT background they are I didn’t speak to them in the end. They are aussies of some kind of Euro background afaics. They were 2 sexy b1tches as per the pictures examples.
just answer the question based on the information supplied and how would YOU approach,
And don’t chicken out. Give me 5 minutes quick bullet points .. if you actually have any IRL skill that is .I’m doubtin’
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.