Cheeky_James
Master Don Juan
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I had 2 pints and a few soft drinks over the course of the night from 6:30pm (had a date) to 12am .How much are you drinking on these excursions?
Be careful the weight doesn't creep on...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
your welcome - I hope it helps some guys tbh.Love reading these field reports, CJ, very informative
Just use AI to transcribe them in seconds.@Slag
I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
So I’m preparing some audio reports to put on a secure Soundcloud account to share here for a listen. So watch dis space.
like the username btw![]()
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.I’m getting tired of writing tbh it takes so long.
I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)The reports do help. Observing a guy's real world experiences is immensely more useful than reading all the endless theorizing that goes on here.
I keep a few journals for some of my endeavors, and can appreciate the time and effort it takes to recap a night out.
Don't answer him, Slag.I reckon hearing it on an audio would be even more useful tbh. It adds more context. (What is sadly missing on forums and essential for interpretation imo)
And it should be much easier and faster for me w audio musings.
I may have to add some voice distortion tho , for privacy.
btw see above post #75 w pics of 2 chicks.
How would you approach them Slag?
FFS Billy… I was expecting this kind of response tbh.Don't answer him, Slag.
FFS CJ IF THEY ARE ITALIAN, YOU DON'T
You don't want to end up like @jhonny9546. Leave them alone.
I tend to avoid women with resting b1tch faces. Why th would I approach? You yourself described them as "total bitches". The women you described are out to get validated first and foremost. I'd shoot the sh1t with them or troll to amuse myself but a fool would play into their game. Do you approach saltwater crocs at the billabong?FFS Billy… I was expecting this kind of response tbh.
There’s always lots of nitpicking/deflection/negation/ reframing on this forum. Makes me wonder tbh.
I don’t know WHAT background they are I didn’t speak to them in the end. They are aussies of some kind of Euro background afaics. They were 2 sexy b1tches as per the pictures examples.
just answer the question based on the information supplied and how would YOU approach,
And don’t chicken out. Give me 5 minutes quick bullet points .. if you actually have any IRL skill that is .I’m doubtin’
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.