You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dude...you've been hand-delivered a woman more than a decade younger than you who is basically offering herself on a platter to you...and you disqualify her because you want to dance...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Could be but also could be since his divorce some sort of fear of intimacy including sexual intimacy.
One of the traits of Borderline Personality Disorder is a distorted sense of reality. We all agree this girl wants him but he doesn't see it that way and it’s driving us up a wall. We’ve all been following his journey and he’s been consistently detached from reality. Case closed you guys.
^I think he does see it, that's the problem! He sees it but he fears it, he is afraid of it. He talks a good game but when faced with the reality of it versus the fantasy, he looks for BS excuses to avoid it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This part here makes me believe he does have BPD. The conversation seemed fine and he somehow thinks he’s being treated like an object? Wtf? He’s delusional.
Exactly what I said earlier about distorted reality of people with BPD. When faced with reality of it versus fantasy…. He doesn’t live in reality.
If that's true, then why did I have no problem getting intimate with this girl?
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That doesn't make her entitled to have me. Everyone has their preferences and I generally like my women a lot younger than her.I mean seriously, to reject a compliant woman, 12 years younger, attractive (a 6 is decently attractive to most men) pretty much a sure thing because she wanted to have a drink instead of going dancing?
Really dude? Come on now.
She could treat me like an object and I would make sure she chokes on my object
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I’ve unfortunately grown up around people with Borderline Personality Disorder and have learned how to spot it. It took me longer with you since this was online. Again, accusing BPH and I of being needy? Delusional.
Even professional psychiatrists are not supposed to diagnose someone from afar, let alone from an internet forum. This is also not the first time you've slandered me to discredit me, or covertly tried to convince me to do something that was against my interest. I've hardly called you out on it because I don't take you (and most of the people here) seriously.
What makes you think I don't have options
I've tried to be patient with you when it comes to giving advice, but if you're gonna be like that and make jabs without even tagging me or replying, ok, let's talk about it...
You don't.What makes you think I don't have options
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked me not to tag you. You want me to start tagging you again?
I do
How about I make it 30 pages just to p!ss you off
I asked you not to tag me if you're not going to listen to me when I come and reply. But what you did was throw a jab there, essentially to say, "trust me, he has problems".
You didn't "press" me...I've said time and time again on this forum that I like to sleep with a lot of women because I enjoy the variety without the attachments, difficulties, and obligations of a relationship.
Same thing here. I told you I wanted to help guys who don't have the proper guidance so they wouldn't have to figure it out on their own, the way I had to. You "pressed" me because I guess that wasn't a good enough answer for YOU. You seem to believe I need to have a grand vision, as if I'm going on a crusade to change the world.
I don't dislike you personally, but you are an extremely frustrating individual. You supposedly want success with women, but when it's given to you, you'd rather dance...
As an armchair psychologist, I can say with 100% certainty that you have Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
After getting a divorce with a woman who had been living with me for four years, I'd been out of the game for that long. I was under a lot of stress after COVID because I had almost lost everything that I worked for up until then. I had been out of the game for years and forgotten how to even talk to people. To make things more challenging, I no longer had a friend circle and lost my youthful appearance. My success with women before then had a lot to do with my situation that I no longer have. I had to learn everything learn (and still learning) everything from the ground up. You mentioned that passing your knowledge on how to be good with women was your motivation for your coaching business; I learned a few things from you too. However learning from basically scratch has been a blessing is disguise.
I've said on this forum that you teach people how to treat you. This level of disrespect I get from you is my fault. I've talked a little bit with you but as you can see I didn't make this clear enough. I think I've slandered you once that I can think of, which was after you said this. How many times have you talked to me like this? At least a few.
What I was looking for was a level of self-understanding and this level of honesty:
For example,
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.