"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Did I Play This Right?
- Thread starter foolyoufool
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Yeah man this is too much I'm not contacting her unless she reaches out at this point.
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Remember they are supposed to be chasing YOU!
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What I would have said:
me: Where were ur parties?
her: All in ---
her: If I had known you didn't go last night, I would have invited you too
her: I'm glad you had fun
me: you just wanted to get me drunk and try to get lucky with me but thanks for the thought
her: I don't need to get you drunk to have you want to sleep with me
her: but no worries lmao
me: I wouldn't be so sure
her: Well I guess I can never be 100 percent sure but the majority of guys will sleep with a girl even if they don't like her
her: So
me: Wow you have a pretty messed up view of guys
her: I know a lot of guys who have straight up told me that was the case
me: Sounds like you're getting an upgrade with me ; ]
her: Not even guys I dated, but just guys I've talked to as friends
her: So you wouldn't sleep with me then?
me: Maybe, maybe not. Depends on how you play your cards.
her: Wow Okay
me: I like to take things slow
her: Okay
me: I want to see you again soon
her: I'm busy the next 12 days working
her: but after that I'm free
me: Mmm...probably won't work out. You're busy. I totally understand. When you're ready, you know where to find me. If my schedule allows, maybe we'll hangout.
PS: Good job on the "maybe, maybe not" response to her asking if you would want to sleep with her. That was gold.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Thanks, I love the last line of yours. "When you are ready, you know where to find me." I'm not so sure that "maybe, maybe not" was the right move because she felt like I rejected her, but I wanted to play it mysterious and not so predictable. Gotta calibrate for each different girl is my theory.