"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Did I Play This Right?
- Thread starter foolyoufool
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Yeah man this is too much I'm not contacting her unless she reaches out at this point.
wifehunter
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Remember they are supposed to be chasing YOU!
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What I would have said:
me: Where were ur parties?
her: All in ---
her: If I had known you didn't go last night, I would have invited you too
her: I'm glad you had fun
me: you just wanted to get me drunk and try to get lucky with me but thanks for the thought
her: I don't need to get you drunk to have you want to sleep with me
her: but no worries lmao
me: I wouldn't be so sure
her: Well I guess I can never be 100 percent sure but the majority of guys will sleep with a girl even if they don't like her
her: So
me: Wow you have a pretty messed up view of guys
her: I know a lot of guys who have straight up told me that was the case
me: Sounds like you're getting an upgrade with me ; ]
her: Not even guys I dated, but just guys I've talked to as friends
her: So you wouldn't sleep with me then?
me: Maybe, maybe not. Depends on how you play your cards.
her: Wow Okay
me: I like to take things slow
her: Okay
me: I want to see you again soon
her: I'm busy the next 12 days working
her: but after that I'm free
me: Mmm...probably won't work out. You're busy. I totally understand. When you're ready, you know where to find me. If my schedule allows, maybe we'll hangout.
PS: Good job on the "maybe, maybe not" response to her asking if you would want to sleep with her. That was gold.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
foolyoufool
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Thanks, I love the last line of yours. "When you are ready, you know where to find me." I'm not so sure that "maybe, maybe not" was the right move because she felt like I rejected her, but I wanted to play it mysterious and not so predictable. Gotta calibrate for each different girl is my theory.