princess_124
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Let's just say she doesn't want sex...would you still stay with her? She is straight by the way...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Would you date/marry a girl who doesn't want sex?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
sylvester the cat
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no procreation. no point.
move on.
move on.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
No.
mynameisntNigel
Don Juan
I'd change her mind!
Serenity
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Let's say you do, wouldn't it be interesting to voice that and ask how you can be sure there is sexual compatibility? Relationship is a negotiation process, more in common means easier to reach agreement. Sex is commonly one of the variables that are hard or next to impossible to negotiate, it's usually too deeply rooted as a personal ideal.
I would call quits and say the terms are unacceptable.
I would call quits and say the terms are unacceptable.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thorninmyside
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Wouldn't even buy her a happy meal, let alone anything else. Sounds like buying a mess with with a long story attached.
nismo-4
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You mean do I want to be a beta orbiter? Hell no. But I'm sure some dumb dude will.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
that sounds extremely dumb.
what's the point of a gf you can't have sex with? that's just a platonic female friend who gets jealous.
UNLESS, it's like high school or something, where she'll do anything but sex(whether that includes anal or just the first 3 bases) to remain pure or because she's not ready or something like that.
what's the point of a gf you can't have sex with? that's just a platonic female friend who gets jealous.
UNLESS, it's like high school or something, where she'll do anything but sex(whether that includes anal or just the first 3 bases) to remain pure or because she's not ready or something like that.
nzsnowman
Don Juan
Negative.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
If my pen1s no longer worked or my sex drive died off completely, maybe, but since neither is the case, I'll round UP and say there's about a zero percent chance I'd entertain the idea.
DragonBlood
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If I felt a connection with this person and she was compatible with my life I probably would consider it. However, it would be on the condition that she is supportive in my pursuit of other women and mistresses to satisfy a basic need she is choosing or not able to meet. This is pretty common in relationships where one partner ends up disabled years later through an accident or disease etc. Just because they married you does not give them the right to suppress your sexuality.
I dont think its really my place to judge why a person doesnt want sex with you, but you would have to question why they decided to marry you in the first place if they didnt feel a strong attraction? Why? If I later discovered they werent sexually abstaining but actually sleeping with other guys and just not with me... well that would be a divorce because she obviously is trying to exploit the situation AND leave me unsatisfied.
I dont think its really my place to judge why a person doesnt want sex with you, but you would have to question why they decided to marry you in the first place if they didnt feel a strong attraction? Why? If I later discovered they werent sexually abstaining but actually sleeping with other guys and just not with me... well that would be a divorce because she obviously is trying to exploit the situation AND leave me unsatisfied.
Tortendieb
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Not on this forum. Get a guy from India, they do that stuff.
She would have to be a VERY special woman to demand my abstinence. You see, it's a great sacrifice. What can she offer in turn?
She would have to be a VERY special woman to demand my abstinence. You see, it's a great sacrifice. What can she offer in turn?
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
Would you put gas in a car that won't start?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.