princess_124
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Let's just say she doesn't want sex...would you still stay with her? She is straight by the way...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Would you date/marry a girl who doesn't want sex?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
sylvester the cat
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no procreation. no point.
move on.
move on.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
No.
mynameisntNigel
Don Juan
I'd change her mind!
Serenity
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Let's say you do, wouldn't it be interesting to voice that and ask how you can be sure there is sexual compatibility? Relationship is a negotiation process, more in common means easier to reach agreement. Sex is commonly one of the variables that are hard or next to impossible to negotiate, it's usually too deeply rooted as a personal ideal.
I would call quits and say the terms are unacceptable.
I would call quits and say the terms are unacceptable.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thorninmyside
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Wouldn't even buy her a happy meal, let alone anything else. Sounds like buying a mess with with a long story attached.
nismo-4
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You mean do I want to be a beta orbiter? Hell no. But I'm sure some dumb dude will.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
that sounds extremely dumb.
what's the point of a gf you can't have sex with? that's just a platonic female friend who gets jealous.
UNLESS, it's like high school or something, where she'll do anything but sex(whether that includes anal or just the first 3 bases) to remain pure or because she's not ready or something like that.
what's the point of a gf you can't have sex with? that's just a platonic female friend who gets jealous.
UNLESS, it's like high school or something, where she'll do anything but sex(whether that includes anal or just the first 3 bases) to remain pure or because she's not ready or something like that.
nzsnowman
Don Juan
Negative.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
If my pen1s no longer worked or my sex drive died off completely, maybe, but since neither is the case, I'll round UP and say there's about a zero percent chance I'd entertain the idea.
DragonBlood
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If I felt a connection with this person and she was compatible with my life I probably would consider it. However, it would be on the condition that she is supportive in my pursuit of other women and mistresses to satisfy a basic need she is choosing or not able to meet. This is pretty common in relationships where one partner ends up disabled years later through an accident or disease etc. Just because they married you does not give them the right to suppress your sexuality.
I dont think its really my place to judge why a person doesnt want sex with you, but you would have to question why they decided to marry you in the first place if they didnt feel a strong attraction? Why? If I later discovered they werent sexually abstaining but actually sleeping with other guys and just not with me... well that would be a divorce because she obviously is trying to exploit the situation AND leave me unsatisfied.
I dont think its really my place to judge why a person doesnt want sex with you, but you would have to question why they decided to marry you in the first place if they didnt feel a strong attraction? Why? If I later discovered they werent sexually abstaining but actually sleeping with other guys and just not with me... well that would be a divorce because she obviously is trying to exploit the situation AND leave me unsatisfied.
Tortendieb
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Not on this forum. Get a guy from India, they do that stuff.
She would have to be a VERY special woman to demand my abstinence. You see, it's a great sacrifice. What can she offer in turn?
She would have to be a VERY special woman to demand my abstinence. You see, it's a great sacrifice. What can she offer in turn?
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
Would you put gas in a car that won't start?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.