princess_124
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Let's just say she doesn't want sex...would you still stay with her? She is straight by the way...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Would you date/marry a girl who doesn't want sex?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
sylvester the cat
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no procreation. no point.
move on.
move on.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
No.
mynameisntNigel
Don Juan
I'd change her mind!
Serenity
Moderator
Let's say you do, wouldn't it be interesting to voice that and ask how you can be sure there is sexual compatibility? Relationship is a negotiation process, more in common means easier to reach agreement. Sex is commonly one of the variables that are hard or next to impossible to negotiate, it's usually too deeply rooted as a personal ideal.
I would call quits and say the terms are unacceptable.
I would call quits and say the terms are unacceptable.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thorninmyside
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Wouldn't even buy her a happy meal, let alone anything else. Sounds like buying a mess with with a long story attached.
nismo-4
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You mean do I want to be a beta orbiter? Hell no. But I'm sure some dumb dude will.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
that sounds extremely dumb.
what's the point of a gf you can't have sex with? that's just a platonic female friend who gets jealous.
UNLESS, it's like high school or something, where she'll do anything but sex(whether that includes anal or just the first 3 bases) to remain pure or because she's not ready or something like that.
what's the point of a gf you can't have sex with? that's just a platonic female friend who gets jealous.
UNLESS, it's like high school or something, where she'll do anything but sex(whether that includes anal or just the first 3 bases) to remain pure or because she's not ready or something like that.
nzsnowman
Don Juan
Negative.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
If my pen1s no longer worked or my sex drive died off completely, maybe, but since neither is the case, I'll round UP and say there's about a zero percent chance I'd entertain the idea.
DragonBlood
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If I felt a connection with this person and she was compatible with my life I probably would consider it. However, it would be on the condition that she is supportive in my pursuit of other women and mistresses to satisfy a basic need she is choosing or not able to meet. This is pretty common in relationships where one partner ends up disabled years later through an accident or disease etc. Just because they married you does not give them the right to suppress your sexuality.
I dont think its really my place to judge why a person doesnt want sex with you, but you would have to question why they decided to marry you in the first place if they didnt feel a strong attraction? Why? If I later discovered they werent sexually abstaining but actually sleeping with other guys and just not with me... well that would be a divorce because she obviously is trying to exploit the situation AND leave me unsatisfied.
I dont think its really my place to judge why a person doesnt want sex with you, but you would have to question why they decided to marry you in the first place if they didnt feel a strong attraction? Why? If I later discovered they werent sexually abstaining but actually sleeping with other guys and just not with me... well that would be a divorce because she obviously is trying to exploit the situation AND leave me unsatisfied.
Tortendieb
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Not on this forum. Get a guy from India, they do that stuff.
She would have to be a VERY special woman to demand my abstinence. You see, it's a great sacrifice. What can she offer in turn?
She would have to be a VERY special woman to demand my abstinence. You see, it's a great sacrifice. What can she offer in turn?
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
Would you put gas in a car that won't start?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.