Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No this is actually the first time you asked.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Really? I have ZERO for the past few years so I am not worried about losing anyone. Enlighten me about this mindset again. The OP has not been dry for more than three weeks.
Dodged a bullet there
I have read a number of your posts. You are quite simply defeated when it comes to trying to get women. You write it off that you "are not Chad/Chad-lite" so you aren't going to be successful. Honestly, I think on some level you enjoy just taking this stance or some variation of it in all of the threads on this forum. You don't want to listen to any advice and advice won't be any good to you anyway because of your attitude. This has nothing to do with the OP.
Sorry mate , but it seems that you put not effort to change your circumstances
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What advice are you talking about?
How do you figure that if I've just mentioned two things?Sorry mate , but it seems that you put not effort to change your circumstances
women do not like loosers , especially as time passes and you are not young anymore
because if you would have really done something , you would have said that , not using a washy washy language
I'm probably a 6 or 6.5 and I do pretty fantastic. Try being happy, positive, charming, confident, flirty, exciting and fun. You'd be surprised how much those matter in person.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You mean take social risks. Each of these things are a risk. Why would you rate yourself as such? Have you been to hotornot? How would you come up with such a rating?
@BackInTheGame78 is one of the anomalies here where he can be a 6 and get tons of women through OLD. LOL
risk of what ?
well , getting laid is a start . I am quite sure that in his good days he fish an 8
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
He may be trying to be modest. That's why you need an objective measure. Also, if he puts a lower looks score, he is basically delegitimizing everything I've just written on here and trying to steer this from some elitist looks thing to a game thing.
Nah, most people lack depth or conversational abilities. Surprisingly for a lot of people those count for something still. I've also got a fairly muscular build even tho I am about 15-20 lbs heavier than I am in peak shape. That never really has mattered much tho.
there is no shame in sleeping with ugly women .
I have a secret for you guys. Girls want guys they can control. If she has a hint that she cannot control you she will move on quick even if she found you really attractive. She will go after the loser she can control and eventually marry him. 5 years in she will lose attraction because the guy does not stand up for himself and she will divorce him.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.