picard
Master Don Juan
why do TV daytime sitcom producers have male characters with long hair like fabio? Do women like this kind of style ? These guys have long hair that aren't tied at the back. 
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Fvck you dude... like Fabio's the only dude that ever had long hair, just like Telly Savalis was the only dude that ever had a shaved head... LOL!picard said:why do TV daytime sitcom producers have male characters with long hair like fabio? Do women like this kind of style ? These guys have long hair that aren't tied at the back.![]()
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That's what most people think.diplomatic_lies said:Actually when I see someone with long hair, I think they're either goths, or druggies.
Thats a bunch of bull**** too. It depends on the chick. Women who dig long hair don't always fall in a certain stereotype. Its really shortsighted to say "only goth women like guys with long hair" or "only hippie chicks". I've had positive comments on my hair from several different kinds of women- both times I had it long(now and back in High school).Bvbidd said:If you want chicks, just keep your hair cut. Not saying it needs to be cut short short short, it doesn't. But when it gets to the point of needing to be tied back or whatever, that is a turn off to girls. Most anyways - Female Goths and Druggies are still around.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What the heck is tall hair?seanchai said:Long hair is sexy; tall hair is the fúcking sexiest thing a man can do to his head. Ask any girl. Short hair is for sheep!
Have you got any pics of you or someone else who sports that look? I'm pretty curious, since I have not really understood what you meandoctoroxygen said:Medium-length hair blow-dried straight up so it's tall and huge and aggressive. I used to wear my hair like that, with astonishing results, but the funny thing about hair is that it just keeps growing.
Exactly. My girlfriend is one of the most innocent girls in the world, not hippie, goth or other stereotypes, she was virgin at 16 when I met her, but she fell in love with me right because I had longhair. Since I cut it, she says that she doesn't like me physically that much and that I should grow it out again.manbearpig said:Thats a bunch of bull**** too. It depends on the chick. Women who dig long hair don't always fall in a certain stereotype. Its really shortsighted to say "only goth women like guys with long hair" or "only hippie chicks". I've had positive comments on my hair from several different kinds of women- both times I had it long(now and back in High school).
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.