I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
lol... hittin' them with some knowledge!grr said:He died a virgin.
(Twice : )
Of course, any short hairstyle is going to require some cutting. Trust me, I've been skin-bald and tried to fix my hair as it grew out naturally - there's no shape. So short haired people only have options if they will cut it to shape it. Only they have fewer options than longhairs if the longhair is willing to trim to shape his hair. Hair requires cutting to have a style whether it's short or long, but short hair by definition has fewer options.grr said:A person with short hair can have MANY different styles within a month with a little wax, forming cream, or even hairspray. A long haired person can do what? Ponytail, blow dry, or cut it shorter. That's pretty much it.
I'm not talking about getting it styled. I'm talking about getting it cut. Besides, wax, forming cream, or hairspray can all help style hair depending on the hairtype.Hair requires cutting to have a style whether it's short or long, but short hair by definition has fewer options.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I wash and condition it it every morning with a decent product (I use Biolage products), then brush and air dry, sometimes with the light application of an anti-frizz agent and some mousse to give the ends some weight since my hair is fine and prone to both issues. Additonally, I'll use a clarifying shampoo (like Neutrogena) once a week to strip all the build up out of it, and get a professional trim every three weeks or so to keep the ends even and keep split ends from developing.diplomatic_lies said:Curious question to long-haired guys, do you normally spend a lot of time washing your hair? Cuz most long-haired guys at college don't, and they get a hobo smell after a while.