BillyPilgrim
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Like a serial dater who can't quit her favorite/most hated app, most likely
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What would you guys do?
- Thread starter Ottocinclus
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BaronOfHair
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Like a river that don't know where it's flowing, she took a wrong turn and now doesn't know where she's going. Everyone's got a hungry heart
Ottocinclus
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It's happened more than a few times: girl who "played" me comes back to "check in" like nothing ever happened. One has done it like three times already.
I'm gonna start ignoring them from now on, I think, because nothing ever comes of it.
I'm gonna start ignoring them from now on, I think, because nothing ever comes of it.
Ottocinclus
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Interesting development: she has a boyfriend, and he's not new. I'm guessing she was bored and just messing with me or that she was thinking of breaking up with him.
That explains the weirdness. Stuff like this happens so often that my default these days is: weird behavior = other dude in the picture.
That explains the weirdness. Stuff like this happens so often that my default these days is: weird behavior = other dude in the picture.
Clockwerk50
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There you go, and now you have your answer. Women who show low interest are often that way simply because they are not interested, have a man, have other priorities, or are self-sufficient enough that their needs can be met on their own rather than by someone else. Sadly, if she was attracted to you, the pull wasn’t strong enough for her to monkey branch to you.
The post I linked earlier in the thread goes a little deeper into this, and it also provides advice on what to do if she is not interested in you right now.
https://www.sosuave.com/quick/what-to-do-if-shes-not-interested-in-you.htm
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
BackInTheGame78
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This tells me they feel you are easy to manipulate and "toy with" in this manner.
Stop being so nice.
Ottocinclus
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She showed obvious interest for a short time, then dialed it back when I joined her group. Now that I've hung out with these people more, I notice things. She brought her boo around, but she still observes me when she thinks I'm not looking. She definitely initiates convo with me now. There're group dynamics at play here for sure. Like, it's not a good look to go cheating on your boyfriend with some new surfer in the crew.
They seem like an odd pair. Not too much in common, like they just met on a dating app or something, and I don't sense much chemistry. I'm sure if he slips up (again?) things will change.
I have other women I'm connecting with, and she's not super hot anyway, but I have a feeling this ain't over LOL
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