BillyPilgrim
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Like a serial dater who can't quit her favorite/most hated app, most likely
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What would you guys do?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BaronOfHair
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Like a river that don't know where it's flowing, she took a wrong turn and now doesn't know where she's going. Everyone's got a hungry heart
Ottocinclus
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It's happened more than a few times: girl who "played" me comes back to "check in" like nothing ever happened. One has done it like three times already.
I'm gonna start ignoring them from now on, I think, because nothing ever comes of it.
I'm gonna start ignoring them from now on, I think, because nothing ever comes of it.
Ottocinclus
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Interesting development: she has a boyfriend, and he's not new. I'm guessing she was bored and just messing with me or that she was thinking of breaking up with him.
That explains the weirdness. Stuff like this happens so often that my default these days is: weird behavior = other dude in the picture.
That explains the weirdness. Stuff like this happens so often that my default these days is: weird behavior = other dude in the picture.
Clockwerk50
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There you go, and now you have your answer. Women who show low interest are often that way simply because they are not interested, have a man, have other priorities, or are self-sufficient enough that their needs can be met on their own rather than by someone else. Sadly, if she was attracted to you, the pull wasn’t strong enough for her to monkey branch to you.
The post I linked earlier in the thread goes a little deeper into this, and it also provides advice on what to do if she is not interested in you right now.
https://www.sosuave.com/quick/what-to-do-if-shes-not-interested-in-you.htm
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
BackInTheGame78
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This tells me they feel you are easy to manipulate and "toy with" in this manner.
Stop being so nice.
Ottocinclus
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She showed obvious interest for a short time, then dialed it back when I joined her group. Now that I've hung out with these people more, I notice things. She brought her boo around, but she still observes me when she thinks I'm not looking. She definitely initiates convo with me now. There're group dynamics at play here for sure. Like, it's not a good look to go cheating on your boyfriend with some new surfer in the crew.
They seem like an odd pair. Not too much in common, like they just met on a dating app or something, and I don't sense much chemistry. I'm sure if he slips up (again?) things will change.
I have other women I'm connecting with, and she's not super hot anyway, but I have a feeling this ain't over LOL
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