BillyPilgrim
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Like a serial dater who can't quit her favorite/most hated app, most likely
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What would you guys do?
- Thread starter Ottocinclus
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BaronOfHair
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Like a river that don't know where it's flowing, she took a wrong turn and now doesn't know where she's going. Everyone's got a hungry heart
Ottocinclus
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It's happened more than a few times: girl who "played" me comes back to "check in" like nothing ever happened. One has done it like three times already.
I'm gonna start ignoring them from now on, I think, because nothing ever comes of it.
I'm gonna start ignoring them from now on, I think, because nothing ever comes of it.
Ottocinclus
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Interesting development: she has a boyfriend, and he's not new. I'm guessing she was bored and just messing with me or that she was thinking of breaking up with him.
That explains the weirdness. Stuff like this happens so often that my default these days is: weird behavior = other dude in the picture.
That explains the weirdness. Stuff like this happens so often that my default these days is: weird behavior = other dude in the picture.
Clockwerk50
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There you go, and now you have your answer. Women who show low interest are often that way simply because they are not interested, have a man, have other priorities, or are self-sufficient enough that their needs can be met on their own rather than by someone else. Sadly, if she was attracted to you, the pull wasn’t strong enough for her to monkey branch to you.
The post I linked earlier in the thread goes a little deeper into this, and it also provides advice on what to do if she is not interested in you right now.
https://www.sosuave.com/quick/what-to-do-if-shes-not-interested-in-you.htm
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BackInTheGame78
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This tells me they feel you are easy to manipulate and "toy with" in this manner.
Stop being so nice.
Ottocinclus
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She showed obvious interest for a short time, then dialed it back when I joined her group. Now that I've hung out with these people more, I notice things. She brought her boo around, but she still observes me when she thinks I'm not looking. She definitely initiates convo with me now. There're group dynamics at play here for sure. Like, it's not a good look to go cheating on your boyfriend with some new surfer in the crew.
They seem like an odd pair. Not too much in common, like they just met on a dating app or something, and I don't sense much chemistry. I'm sure if he slips up (again?) things will change.
I have other women I'm connecting with, and she's not super hot anyway, but I have a feeling this ain't over LOL
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