B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm not a troll just unlucky and out of my fvcking mind
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What does this mean?
- Thread starter B0redandl0nely
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
XDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD LMAO.
yeah i had the 'kiss me now, ignore later' thing. women change mind every 5min.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
It's probably because I bugged out on the date when I realized I didn't kiss her at that moment
RetiredArchitect
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You have to remember women are insecure too.
You rejected her, which results in her pulling away.
You need to get other things to do in your life because you are acting neurotic about a girl over little details
You rejected her, which results in her pulling away.
You need to get other things to do in your life because you are acting neurotic about a girl over little details
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I want you to answer me:
What is it you think we can do for you here at SoSuave? What is it you like to see from us?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I think what I'm doing is fine. What's actually going on in my head is probably bad for my health but I think I have a right to post here as much as anybody else.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I have things to do in my life but I'm getting distracted by the things I post about
GrowingPains
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You didn't answer the question. Very BigDave of you.
The question is what do you want from us?
Not whether you deserve to post here. When you post these threads, what are you looking for?
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Advice and I'm getting it
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I didn’t say you didn’t have a right to post here.
I asked you a genuine question. I want to know what it is, in your perception, you think we can do or that you expect us to do to help you?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Just answer my questions and I will take your advice. However, I think I need a break from this forum because I feel like it is frying my brain. My head really hurts.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Unfortunately, it's not easy for me to apply what I learn because have issues and disabilities. Like on the date I didn't kiss the girl in public, I bugged out and it upset her. I ruined the whole night.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Call me a troll, I can't fvcking believe what I did. And this is the last time I'll say it.
nah chad would pick out his 6'' inch phone and play minecraft on it in that very moment and she would become even more wet
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That's good.
Now put into practice what some posters had advised you.
Don't do it all at once, take 1 advice at a time and practice on it.
Find one you think that is easy and then zoom into it.
It will be slow but that doesn't matter, what matters is you take action and don't get excited to the point of being obsessed.
You'll be fine, don't worry.