The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[soulforge]

I have ups and downs. Sometimes I think about her and miss her but it's the disrespect that I had to go through that brings out the hate. It balances out the feelings of losing her. But I don't think this is healthy either.

My ex was crazy, and a bych, so it's easier to get toxic girls.. Harder when she was a quality girlfriend

 

[vato]

Day 9:

Still in no contact. Everytime I get a text or call on my phone, I'm hoping it's from her and when I don't see her name on the notifications I get disappointed.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Everytime I get a text or call on my phone, I'm hoping it's from her and when I don't see her name on the notifications I get disappointed.

Why? She was very disrepectful and she abandoned you. She did you a favor because she showed you her true colors sooner rather than later and now you are free to pursue younger, hotter, and better quality girls.

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[soulforge]

Day 9:

Still in no contact. Everytime I get a text or call on my phone, I'm hoping it's from her and when I don't see her name on the notifications I get disappointed.

She was flirting with your friend right?

You don't miss slags like that, you be glad she is gone.

However.. Don't let a 304 like this ever dump you again. If she is not the best girlfriend to you, giving you the king treatment, the you MUST dump her.

By the way.. no bich is going to give you the King treatment, if you're acting like a weak bich. Always check these hoes when they get out of line, and always make sure you run chit.. not her.

 

[vato]

She was flirting with your friend right?

You don't miss slags like that, you be glad she is gone.

However.. Don't let a 304 like this ever dump you again. If she is not the best girlfriend to you, giving you the king treatment, the you MUST dump her.

By the way.. no bich is going to give you the King treatment, if you're acting like a weak bich. Always check these hoes when they get out of line, and always make sure you run chit.. not her.

You're right. I should be glad. I am glad that she is gone.

I went out tonight with a friend and approached some baddies - explicity chose girls that looked better than my ex. It went really well. Was a bit nervous to approach after not gaming for 3 years. Exchanged some numbers and instas. One girl passed by and told me "what a beauty" - that's a first . Going out tomorrow again and doing the same thing. Feels good after feeling like sh*t for a week.

 

[soulforge]

You're right. I should be glad. I am glad that she is gone.

I went out tonight with a friend and approached some baddies - explicity chose girls that looked better than my ex. It went really well. Was a bit nervous to approach after not gaming for 3 years. Exchanged some numbers and instas. One girl passed by and told me "what a beauty" - that's a first . Going out tomorrow again and doing the same thing. Feels good after feeling like sh*t for a week.

Good job.. the more baddies you approach the easier it gets.

 

[alvinkels]

I don't know why some of you talk to your exes till the extend that it gets that far. I know it is difficult I have been there before but trust you are better off especially if that person has no value to add to your life. NC 200+ days now and she called like 3 days ago and I just danced to my ringtone. My friend said I should call her back probably she wants to tell me something. I told him if it matters she won't just once. Yeah I know I have ego so don't tell me. The thing is that, once I am done with someone especially if they did the call for the breakup over something not reasonable in my case where I literally did nothing wrong: all I did was that I was busy my mom was sick, company being sued and I had to finish my thesis and she was writing exams that week so I didn't communicate much with her and she transposed her childhood traumas on me asking me if I cared about her ‍. After all I did for her that was the question she asked me. I don't want to go into details what I did for her...

Once I walk away I don't look back I don't care what might be happening she could even be dying I still don't care. "I am done!" That's it. She can take her troubles somewhere else...and before I forgot during those days we were not communicating well she was talking to another guy. It is I ignored her calls or messages, she did call or text either. I later found out after the breakup that she and gut have been having phone s*x lol... pathetic!

 

[soulforge]

I don't know why some of you talk to your exes till the extend that it gets that far. I know it is difficult I have been there before but trust you are better off especially if that person has no value to add to your life. NC 200+ days now and she called like 3 days ago and I just danced to my ringtone. My friend said I should call her back probably she wants to tell me something. I told him if it matters she won't just once. Yeah I know I have ego so don't tell me. The thing is that, once I am done with someone especially if they did the call for the breakup over something not reasonable in my case where I literally did nothing wrong: all I did was that I was busy my mom was sick, company being sued and I had to finish my thesis and she was writing exams that week so I didn't communicate much with her and she transposed her childhood traumas on me asking me if I cared about her ‍. After all I did for her that was the question she asked me. I don't want to go into details what I did for her...

Once I walk away I don't look back I don't care what might be happening she could even be dying I still don't care. "I am done!" That's it. She can take her troubles somewhere else...and before I forgot during those days we were not communicating well she was talking to another guy. It is I ignored her calls or messages, she did call or text either. I later found out after the breakup that she and gut have been having phone s*x lol... pathetic!

This is a good mindset..

Something very important to understand here.

If you treated a girl like garbage and she dumped you because of the ill treatment you gave her, then you kind of deserved the dumping.

However if you as a man, tried to be the best man you can be and she still mistreats you or dumps you, you should walk away immediately.

Some of these dudes in the NC thread are staying in touch with exes and chasing, when that girl threw him away like garbage.

 

[DreamAgain]

You really have to cut them out of your life completely. Just block if you have to, don't answer phone calls, don't respond to texts, eventually they will give up, they only want to contact you to harass you and see if they still have power over you.

I think 90 days is a bit early, but 180 days or 6 months and I can say you will be a new and improved version of yourself, learn from your mistakes, and find a much better girl out there for you.

 

[soulforge]

You really have to cut them out of your life completely. Just block if you have to, don't answer phone calls, don't respond to texts, eventually they will give up, they only want to contact you to harass you and see if they still have power over you.

I think 90 days is a bit early, but 180 days or 6 months and I can say you will be a new and improved version of yourself, learn from your mistakes, and find a much better girl out there for you.

Yeh NC needs to be solid NC.

Even if she gets InTouch best to ignore.

 

[Foe]

Day 9:

Still in no contact. Everytime I get a text or call on my phone, I'm hoping it's from her and when I don't see her name on the notifications I get disappointed.

I know this feeling well man, hang in there it gets easier and easier the longer you go NC. It will get to a point where you will get a breadcrumb and you will be disappointed that they even tried.

 

[Adz--]

Day: Cant remember

Thought I'd share an update. Cant remember how long NC has been, around 3/5 months?. Anyway, things have gotten a lot better, she hasn't reached out and neither have I. My life is a lot better now than it was when I first started NC.

Sorted out my diet and lost a lot of weight, focused on my career and studying which has been paying off and getting through the graft of work/studying.

90% of the in depth thoughts/ memories of the ex have near enough stopped, I still get general thoughts from time to time and catch my self thinking about her but snap myself back to reality as soon as I do.

I've got a plate that we both know where we stand and meet up whenever we feel like and communication is minimum, which is ideal with what I have going on at the moment.

Things do get better, you have to get through the rough to get to the smooth. The question I have now is there anyway to rid of these residual thoughts/ memories, or is it something that will either
A) Fade with time and eventually be gone
B) Remain there as I spent a lot of time with that individual and they had a significant role in my life, but they will subside into a memory where I will laugh or be indifferent to

Adz--

 

[Foe]

A) Fade with time and eventually be gone
B) Remain there as I spent a lot of time with that individual and they had a significant role in my life, but they will subside into a memory where I will laugh or be indifferent to

Truth is, whatever you want. I choose to hold my latest ex as a trophy. Shes no longer allowed in my life but god damn if she wasnt something. Ill think of her in my rocking chair, pretty sure. Another ex, could not care less about. Absolute indifference.

 

[Poppasmurphy]

Upgrade and it will fade. Don’t be surprised if she reaches out randomly in the future when you are totally over her.

 

[Poppasmurphy]

Please do not sit and wait by the phone hoping she makes contact, you will become a shell of a human and far from your potential. Get out there , get to the gym , go for a run , have fun. It might not come easy but you have to do it. No hard boozing. Use the pain as fuel and be better. I’m with you guys on this one , broke up 2 weeks ago

 

[Lotus Effect]

90+ days of NC

Had a good laid for the first time after the breakup. The chick wasn’t all that much, but I had some good time.

at xmas night.

Then hooked up with a 2nd chick the other day. Did some kink stuff but no fork. It was cool anyway. Very hot chick, and she is dating another guy which adds some value to the kink stuff.

And then I did the first chick again 2 or 3 other days. also at New Year’s Eve. I’m vacationing at Paris.

In the past 90 days, I forked 2 girls, but it was awful.

This one that I had at Xmas night was the first one that I actually enjoyed.

I guess I’m moving forward.

still thought a lot about the NC one. I need to improve the quality of the chicks to help me on this matter.

Being unable to train due to the motorcycle accident it’s been really hard landing chicks, since I’m prone to get way too skinny. So for now I have to deal with that.

anyway. I decided not to talk about the Nc chick anymore, and I felt really good this holiday season with all that happen.

multiple decent lays. 2 chicks

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Hi dudes.

90 Days NC

Been roughly 90 days since NC. Never broke it once. Kept straight at it. Here are some personal lessons learnt. I'll keep it brief.

Pain
The sharp intolerable pain has gone away. Went away after about a month. Instead there is still moments of longing over the past 3 months. Of reminiscing the good times. Of missing. But nothing that keeps me up at night. Not like the initial moments of break up. Based on my past NC experience with another ex, these feelings will eventually dissipate entirely with time.

Contact & Breadcrumbs
Ex never reached out. Can't deny that I had moments of false hope where I thought she might reach out in the past 3 months because of what we had. But she never did. One of the biggest realizations that I have been thinking about a lot is how her lack of action of reaching out is one major sign. Basically the girl has decided that she wants out and does not want in. As much as we may try to speculate their mental state and whether there is hope in this 'fog of war' situation of not communicating, the truth is the answer is staring you right in your eyes which is her inaction. You aren't important enough for her to be back into the picture. Any more speculation is just self torture. I guess I have to come to term with this and accept the reality as it is. Hope is really dangerous in situations like these. Destroy hope and embrace truth.

Dating & Sex As A Fix
Over the past 3 months, I jumped into dating and sex almost immediately after the break up. I have been out with many girls. Ranging from 8s to 10s. Young chicks, models and influencers. I have made out with most of them and slept with some of them. Surprisingly but maybe not surprisingly (since I have experienced NC before and tried this tactic) as much as you convince yourself that new girls and new sex will help you, it doesn't. The sex hasn't been very enjoyable beyond the moment of sex itself. The chicks and dating can also feel repetitive. But this may also be down to the fact that the break up is still fresh and has a hold over me. I may have the expectations that sex and girls are the keys to get over my ex. Putting my ex on some pedestal that I benchmark all my interactions. But the key maybe is to rid myself of these expectations because they lead to disappointment. I think the key also is to realize that girls and sex are not the true antidote to a breakup or even happiness in life. But with that said, just with my past NC experience, at some point maybe when you least expect it you might encounter some chick who truly blows your mind away and takes away all the concerns on your ex. Hopefully at that moment which usually is when you least expect it, you are ready for her.

Self-Improvement & Career
I have been religiously working on my fitness and also aspects of career development. My fitness dedication has brought results. I've been complimented by girls how good I look and of course it has brought a lot of confidence. It has actually brought a lot of happiness in terms of how I have improved myself through dedication. I have also embarked on several interesting career moves. I do feel focusing more on my own growth feels like something much more substantial than just dating and sex alone. So this is really the area to focus on among other things. Something to keep in mind for all of us.

Epic Life
I have definitely done more adventurous things since the break up. Many things I wouldn't ordinarily do and that has brought me a lot of unforgettable life experiences over the past year. Challenging myself and doing things and meeting people that I won't ordinarily have considered is something that I can see can come to shape and define me in substantial ways just like self-improvement and work. So this is also another area to really focus on.


It's a new year and I still feel I have more to go on my own NC journey. Let's see how the next check-in might be like.

Hope my bros are hanging in there.

 

[soulforge]

Hi dudes.

90 Days NC

Been roughly 90 days since NC. Never broke it once. Kept straight at it. Here are some personal lessons learnt. I'll keep it brief.

Pain
The sharp intolerable pain has gone away. Went away after about a month. Instead there is still moments of longing over the past 3 months. Of reminiscing the good times. Of missing. But nothing that keeps me up at night. Not like the initial moments of break up. Based on my past NC experience with another ex, these feelings will eventually dissipate entirely with time.

Contact & Breadcrumbs
Ex never reached out. Can't deny that I had moments of false hope where I thought she might reach out in the past 3 months because of what we had. But she never did. One of the biggest realizations that I have been thinking about a lot is how her lack of action of reaching out is one major sign. Basically the girl has decided that she wants out and does not want in. As much as we may try to speculate their mental state and whether there is hope in this 'fog of war' situation of not communicating, the truth is the answer is staring you right in your eyes which is her inaction. You aren't important enough for her to be back into the picture. Any more speculation is just self torture. I guess I have to come to term with this and accept the reality as it is. Hope is really dangerous in situations like these. Destroy hope and embrace truth.

Dating & Sex As A Fix
Over the past 3 months, I jumped into dating and sex almost immediately after the break up. I have been out with many girls. Ranging from 8s to 10s. Young chicks, models and influencers. I have made out with most of them and slept with some of them. Surprisingly but maybe not surprisingly (since I have experienced NC before and tried this tactic) as much as you convince yourself that new girls and new sex will help you, it doesn't. The sex hasn't been very enjoyable beyond the moment of sex itself. The chicks and dating can also feel repetitive. But this may also be down to the fact that the break up is still fresh and has a hold over me. I may have the expectations that sex and girls are the keys to get over my ex. Putting my ex on some pedestal that I benchmark all my interactions. But the key maybe is to rid myself of these expectations because they lead to disappointment. I think the key also is to realize that girls and sex are not the true antidote to a breakup or even happiness in life. But with that said, just with my past NC experience, at some point maybe when you least expect it you might encounter some chick who truly blows your mind away and takes away all the concerns on your ex. Hopefully at that moment which usually is when you least expect it, you are ready for her.

Self-Improvement & Career
I have been religiously working on my fitness and also aspects of career development. My fitness dedication has brought results. I've been complimented by girls how good I look and of course it has brought a lot of confidence. It has actually brought a lot of happiness in terms of how I have improved myself through dedication. I have also embarked on several interesting career moves. I do feel focusing more on my own growth feels like something much more substantial than just dating and sex alone. So this is really the area to focus on among other things. Something to keep in mind for all of us.

Epic Life
I have definitely done more adventurous things since the break up. Many things I wouldn't ordinarily do and that has brought me a lot of unforgettable life experiences over the past year. Challenging myself and doing things and meeting people that I won't ordinarily have considered is something that I can see can come to shape and define me in substantial ways just like self-improvement and work. So this is also another area to really focus on.


It's a new year and I still feel I have more to go on my own NC journey. Let's see how the next check-in might be like.

Hope my bros are hanging in there.

That's good progress man, keep it up.

It's been 6 months NC and I never heard from her since, however it's understandable why she never reached out, as I am the one who showed her the door.

I do still think about her & miss her, but in actual fact I realise that I dodged a massive bullet.

My ex is the typical Cluster B damaged type with many issues, an tons of red flags.

In the short term it's been a painful break up, however in the long term I saved myself a life of misery.

It does get better.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

That's good progress man, keep it up.

It's been 6 months NC and I never heard from her since, however it's understandable why she never reached out, as I am the one who showed her the door.

I do still think about her & miss her, but in actual fact I realise that I dodged a massive bullet.

My ex is the typical Cluster B damaged type with many issues, an tons of red flags.

In the short term it's been a painful break up, however in the long term I saved myself a life of misery.

It does get better.

Thank you bro. Knowing your story personally I am confident that you really dodged a bullet. I been dealing with some ridiculous EE girls recently you should check out my thread on it. EE girls are so combative that I rather not deal with that crap. Nothing is worth our dignity!

 

[soulforge]

Thank you bro. Knowing your story personally I am confident that you really dodged a bullet. I been dealing with some ridiculous EE girls recently you should check out my thread on it. EE girls are so combative that I rather not deal with that crap. Nothing is worth our dignity!

It's true man, this common misconception about EE girls being super sweet lol. They are mostly quite masculine.

They used to getting bich slapped by there man when they get drunk.