Doesn't matter she still left you and she had her reasons. Now you want to hit her up and you rationalize your emotions why it's ok to do that.I totally see where you’re coming from Max, & in most normal situations I’d totally agree with you.
My thing is we didn’t end on bad terms (at least I don’t think so!), but I had a lot going on outside my relationship at the time (my oldest sister got sick, my brother got AIDS, really heavy stuff you don’t talk about in the early stages of a relationship) which affected it.
I’m in a totally different place right now, I’d like to be able to say “hey, I’ve a new job working in the city you live now” (which I am) “i’ll be around in the area, if you want a drink feel free to join me...”
It’s not that I’m not still looking for someone new, but nobody else I’ve seen has interested me. I know we don’t always need or get resolution to everything in life, but I’d always wonder because I never got a chance to explain what was going on.
I just wonder if I should get in touch with her (or indeed anyone else) before lockdown ends & the world opens back up, or wait till it’s all back to normal before messaging girls again.
It's only ok if you have options and she hits you up. You're saying that you have no other options now and you would like to contact her because of that. This isn't a good position to be in if you want to contact an ex that dumped you and didn't even give you any signs of interest now.