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Hello gents.

Here I am again. Crazy to think I've been doing this every month this year.

I guess my main intentions are to help others with my own introspection; this is a tough path.

NC 210 (7 Months)

Things have definitely stalled and dipped recently since my last update.

The ex has not reached out or breadcrumbed me. It has been absolute silence. I am picturing she probably has monkey branched and totally forgotten about me. It makes me a bit down to not have received anything at all; mainly making me believe like I did not matter at all. At the same time, it is also part of my awakening from my deluded romantic mind to see the truth of women.

The momentum of my work out and self-improvement has tanked significantly; I am still keeping to most of my routines as before (e.g. working out, learning, etc.) however I don't do it with as much intensity and passion as before. As a result, I've started to gain some weight, but it is still largely under control. I am just feeling a bit burnt out and also the pain that propelled me to improve has largely gone. I am fighting to maintain the same momentum of improvement now, I don't plan to give up.

I am currently suffering a horrible dry spell with women. I've recently moved somewhere that has very strict COVID measures and for the most part of the past 2 months, I was in lockdown. So I've not had any contact and interaction with girls for quite awhile now. It certainly does not help me with my NC journey because I am not able to meet others; I've had to largely face this at home and by myself. I've also been adopting more RP mentality and have avoided OLD and not invested very much into it. The result of it is I am quite lonely when it comes to women. I am looking forward for the days when I can get back out there, date and meet women. Yet I've also tried to see the positivity of it, I've tried to see this as a challenge to face breakups alone without distraction and focus on working on me. I can't deny it definitely isn't easy and has made it more challenging for me.

Maybe because of the dry spell, I recently have been thinking about the ex a bit more than usual. I guess I really long for one of those exciting and passionate relationships with a girl. I know much of my past relationship with the ex was largely me romanticizing it but it certainly felt great back then when it was happening; I've not had much luck lately because of circumstance.

Anyway, I'll check out for now.
After 7 months you should have already forgotten about her existence. Don't do this to yourself man, don't count how many days you haven't been talking because it doesn't matter.

NC is not meant for you to waste time on her wondering when she's gonna come back, it's about focusing on you and moving on to the better things.
 

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After 7 months you should have already forgotten about her existence. Don't do this to yourself man, don't count how many days you haven't been talking because it doesn't matter.

NC is not meant for you to waste time on her wondering when she's gonna come back, it's about focusing on you and moving on to the better things.
Yeah, I am surprised I haven't. I have spent the last 7 months working on myself, have made some nice strides in life yet it's hard to completely forget completely, though the pain/intensity of the feelings are gone now. But yeah my recent dry spell is making it more difficult.
 

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But the breaking point really stemmed from the fact that I was actually in an existing relationship with another person. Although it was also a relationship that I was working on ending so I could really focus on the girl. (Its a long story and no moral judgment needed here, I understand my predicament). I thought it could be sorted quietly and easily. Eventually, she found out and immediately dumped me without saying a word.
The ex has not reached out or breadcrumbed me. It has been absolute silence. I am picturing she probably has monkey branched and totally forgotten about me.

From this, I don't see any monkey branching. Although I don't see where you mentioned being commited, I'm going to guess that she viewed you as cheating on her, pulled the plug and was probably pretty unhappy for a while (if she was attached to you). You use the motivation of pain that seems to have been of your own making (no judgement, just how it reads), while she probably used the pain on her end to close off her mind from you. Whatever the case, obviously she is still in your head. Maybe its ego or that, down deep, you know that you f-ed up and a woman that you liked, bolted. We have all been there at some point and from how you said things went down and that she cut communication, I don't see any chance of her coming back.

Anyway, introspection can help, but don't dwell on things to a point where you keep training your mind to think about her. Distraction is the key. Find ANYTHING to do other than sitting around (yes lockdown sucks). Play a new music Genre where no thought inducing songs wil pop up, get a good book, a puzzle, binge watch a TV series, pick up a new hobby. Yes all this has been said before, but it's because it helps. Now that this much time has passed, you may find a new woman tomorrow, next week, or in months and you may be surprised how quickly the old memories disappear (or dramatically fade). The end is ahead. As much as it continues to suck, you just need to wait it out. There isn't a magic bullet, at least one that I know of.
 

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From this, I don't see any monkey branching. Although I don't see where you mentioned being commited, I'm going to guess that she viewed you as cheating on her, pulled the plug and was probably pretty unhappy for a while (if she was attached to you). You use the motivation of pain that seems to have been of your own making (no judgement, just how it reads), while she probably used the pain on her end to close off her mind from you. Whatever the case, obviously she is still in your head. Maybe its ego or that, down deep, you know that you f-ed up and a woman that you liked, bolted. We have all been there at some point and from how you said things went down and that she cut communication, I don't see any chance of her coming back.

Anyway, introspection can help, but don't dwell on things to a point where you keep training your mind to think about her. Distraction is the key. Find ANYTHING to do other than sitting around (yes lockdown sucks). Play a new music Genre where no thought inducing songs wil pop up, get a good book, a puzzle, binge watch a TV series, pick up a new hobby. Yes all this has been said before, but it's because it helps. Now that this much time has passed, you may find a new woman tomorrow, next week, or in months and you may be surprised how quickly the old memories disappear (or dramatically fade). The end is ahead. As much as it continues to suck, you just need to wait it out. There isn't a magic bullet, at least one that I know of.
Hey bro thanks for the words. Certainly helped. Especially thanks for taking the time to go back and read my entries.

I originally was doing well (or so I thought) in my recovery but my recent move and dry spell has really made it hard.

But yes, you're absolutely right. I need to distract myself much more even when locked down. Also I am excited by the prospect that the next great thing could be around the corner.

Just to give all bros here an idea; prior to this ex, I was also with another bombshell girl that I struggled to get over. She literally was sexual dynamite; intense relationship that ended. Had a hard time getting over that one and never thought I could get the same high until I unexpected met my recent ex.

So yeah, who knows what's next.

But anyway, my focus is to take this breakup as a greater opportunity for self improvement.
 

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Hey bro thanks for the words. Certainly helped. Especially thanks for taking the time to go back and read my entries.

I originally was doing well (or so I thought) in my recovery but my recent move and dry spell has really made it hard.

But yes, you're absolutely right. I need to distract myself much more even when locked down. Also I am excited by the prospect that the next great thing could be around the corner.

Just to give all bros here an idea; prior to this ex, I was also with another bombshell girl that I struggled to get over. She literally was sexual dynamite; intense relationship that ended. Had a hard time getting over that one and never thought I could get the same high until I unexpected met my recent ex.

So yeah, who knows what's next.

But anyway, my focus is to take this breakup as a greater opportunity for self improvement.
James, here is the magic. When a relationship is over with someone you thought was a bombshell and amazing, you think that nothing can top her and you wallow in misery for some time or alot of time depending on your experience. Then you suddenly meet someone that tops the ex, until that relationship ends and you think the same thing as before and the cycle continues. Again and again.
You evolve, what you want/need and look for changes with every relationship and so does the quality of women as you raise your standards with every adventure.
I hear that you're struggling right now, but know that a better one is waiting for you out there and this time you will meet her a better man and you will thank this last experience for giving you the opportunity to meet the next amazing one.

That, is what's next my friend if you choose to grow from this.
 

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James, here is the magic. When a relationship is over with someone you thought was a bombshell and amazing, you think that nothing can top her and you wallow in misery for some time or alot of time depending on your experience. Then you suddenly meet someone that tops the ex, until that relationship ends and you think the same thing as before and the cycle continues. Again and again.
You evolve, what you want/need and look for changes with every relationship and so does the quality of women as you raise your standards with every adventure.
I hear that you're struggling right now, but know that a better one is waiting for you out there and this time you will meet her a better man and you will thank this last experience for giving you the opportunity to meet the next amazing one.

That, is what's next my friend if you choose to grow from this.
This was beautiful and what I needed to hear!

You are absolutely right and have helped me gain perspective.
 

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I plan to do the challenge asap but how do manage aspects like
1. we lived together for 4 years and splitting contracts, the things we own, financial things takes forever, i dont want to wait until this is done and its also tearing me apart to do this now.
2. we have 2 cats i love that stay with her and i dont want to lose them as well. maybe i should just not see them for 60 days...
3. in case we have to be in contact, how should i behave? if im very cold, distanced, serious she will see how much im hurt and i dont want that. I would rather like to be funny, relaxed, happy, maybe a bit flirty... or what do you think?
4. her birthday, if i dont wish her happy birthday same as above probably or she will simply think im an *******.

besides that, like everyone in my phase, i hope to get her back (lol) but i have to move on and get over it. at the same time i dont want to show myself in a way to de-value (sad, crying, desparate etc.) myself in her eyes, i know she is still somehow interested, but too much hurt and too little convinced that we can get better. i want to demonstrate that it was a mistake to let me go because i believe this will also help me to process it.
 

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I plan to do the challenge asap but how do manage aspects like
1. we lived together for 4 years and splitting contracts, the things we own, financial things takes forever, i dont want to wait until this is done and its also tearing me apart to do this now.
2. we have 2 cats i love that stay with her and i dont want to lose them as well. maybe i should just not see them for 60 days...
3. in case we have to be in contact, how should i behave? if im very cold, distanced, serious she will see how much im hurt and i dont want that. I would rather like to be funny, relaxed, happy, maybe a bit flirty... or what do you think?
4. her birthday, if i dont wish her happy birthday same as above probably or she will simply think im an *******.

besides that, like everyone in my phase, i hope to get her back (lol) but i have to move on and get over it. at the same time i dont want to show myself in a way to de-value (sad, crying, desparate etc.) myself in her eyes, i know she is still somehow interested, but too much hurt and too little convinced that we can get better. i want to demonstrate that it was a mistake to let me go because i believe this will also help me to process it.
Your biggest mistake here is that you are focusing only on her and what she want and not you. That is lack of confidence. Your move now is to not want her back rather you need to start speaking with new girls asap.

Put it this way, you drove a car which is old and it finally it broke down so ofcourse you sell it so you can buy new one which is cool, fresh and sexy.

Whatever you do just don't try to get her back because as she have mind on other d1cks, you should also think about new puzzys.
 

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I plan to do the challenge asap but how do manage aspects like
1. we lived together for 4 years and splitting contracts, the things we own, financial things takes forever, i dont want to wait until this is done and its also tearing me apart to do this now.
2. we have 2 cats i love that stay with her and i dont want to lose them as well. maybe i should just not see them for 60 days...
3. in case we have to be in contact, how should i behave? if im very cold, distanced, serious she will see how much im hurt and i dont want that. I would rather like to be funny, relaxed, happy, maybe a bit flirty... or what do you think?
4. her birthday, if i dont wish her happy birthday same as above probably or she will simply think im an *******.

besides that, like everyone in my phase, i hope to get her back (lol) but i have to move on and get over it. at the same time i dont want to show myself in a way to de-value (sad, crying, desparate etc.) myself in her eyes, i know she is still somehow interested, but too much hurt and too little convinced that we can get better. i want to demonstrate that it was a mistake to let me go because i believe this will also help me to process it.
You be yourself and do your thing. You do not go out of your way for her at all. What she thinks doesn't matter because she isn't a priority to you any more.

1. Just cancel all things and then get your own accounts and she can do the same. No need to even deal with her. Just do your own thing.

2. How about you take one she takes the other. She has a problem with that then leave the cats and get your own. Oh but she will have a problem with that. She will see it as me moving on and not be able to manipulate my feelings for her by staying in my orbit using the cats. That's the point.

3. If you have contact, you be yourself. You give her 3 minutes you tell her nothing about yourself except that you are crazy busy and you don't have time, tell her we will catch up soon, (but continue no contact after) but take care.

4 her birthday is no longer a concern for you. It is just another day of the week..she is no longer a priority so wishing her a happy birthday is useless.

Stop over thinking things. Get busy with yourself. Trust me she not thinking about how she blew her chances with you and how to fix things, she is focusing all her energy on the next guy.
 

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I plan to do the challenge asap but how do manage aspects like
1. we lived together for 4 years and splitting contracts, the things we own, financial things takes forever, i dont want to wait until this is done and its also tearing me apart to do this now.
2. we have 2 cats i love that stay with her and i dont want to lose them as well. maybe i should just not see them for 60 days...
3. in case we have to be in contact, how should i behave? if im very cold, distanced, serious she will see how much im hurt and i dont want that. I would rather like to be funny, relaxed, happy, maybe a bit flirty... or what do you think?
4. her birthday, if i dont wish her happy birthday same as above probably or she will simply think im an *******.

besides that, like everyone in my phase, i hope to get her back (lol) but i have to move on and get over it. at the same time i dont want to show myself in a way to de-value (sad, crying, desparate etc.) myself in her eyes, i know she is still somehow interested, but too much hurt and too little convinced that we can get better. i want to demonstrate that it was a mistake to let me go because i believe this will also help me to process it.
This "challenge" is about doing the best for you.
If instead you want to try to get her back, you're setting yourself up for more pain. Most of us experienced it and you probably did as well at some point in your life.

Be the smart man that learns from mistakes. Otherwise you're gonna fail again and again and you're not getting any younger.

Hope you'll have the will and balls to do the right thing. A new life awaits you.
 

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Hello gents.

Back again with my monthly update. Another month has gone by.

It is now:

NC 240 (8 Months)

For those who have followed (and those that have not) read my monthly updates, I have been doing well for months!

But things have been a bit tough and down lately (starting from month 6 - 7). Following my last update, I have sunk into a lower point because of an insane dry spell I've been going through. As I mentioned, I have moved somewhere with stricter Covid restrictions, for a period of time it has been strict lockdown. So I've not been able to really go out and date women. Being locked down has forced me to really be myself and I found my thoughts often going back to the high moments of my past relationship especially during moments when I have felt lonely. It doesn't help that recently a friend of mine had told me that the ex has moved to Barcelona, somewhere we talked about settling down in together. No doubt, she is starting her own life there.

At the same time, I am aware that I should not be thinking or feeling like this, I am consciously aware (from RP awakening) that the relationship was toxic, the girl had many red flags but it is hard to control the emotions at times. I feel pathetic and frustrated I cannot erase this person from my mind. In fact, to my very surprise, I have had 2 dreams about the ex within the past month (surprising since I've not dreamt about her for the whole year).

Interestingly, this resurfacing pain has recreated a momentum for me to amp up my self-improvement. (I talked about in earlier months that as I was recovering and the pain was gone, I've started to slack on my gym and self-help routines.) I am starting to amp up the frequency of my exercises, read and journal more. Also, it has really led to question the source of my self-esteem and value, maybe rather than focus it on the girl (or any girls), I should really draw value from within myself and learn to be happy being alone.

An interesting thought I had was on the idea of how women 'flow' into your life. When I was with that ex, I had women literally vying for my attention, a lot of plates were spun; top quality ones too. It was really really effortless. In a way because I was with the ex, I did not actively cared or chased. Now, that I am in a dry spell, it has been difficult to set up plates, requires so much effort. Even if I am trying deliberately now with much effort, the results have not been good at all. So I find it interesting how, when they come, they come in droves and when they're gone, they're gone in droves too.

Anyway, good news is, the restrictions for Covid are now gone and I am recently vaccinated, so I believe I will bounce back from the dry spell and get back to normal life again. I will keep you guys updated for sure.

For those who are reading this for a reference/indication of breadcrumbs; the ex has not left any, not after 8 months, not a single spec.

Take care brothers.

-James
 

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Hello gents.

Back again with my monthly update. Another month has gone by.

It is now:

NC 240 (8 Months)

For those who have followed (and those that have not) read my monthly updates, I have been doing well for months!

But things have been a bit tough and down lately (starting from month 6 - 7). Following my last update, I have sunk into a lower point because of an insane dry spell I've been going through. As I mentioned, I have moved somewhere with stricter Covid restrictions, for a period of time it has been strict lockdown. So I've not been able to really go out and date women. Being locked down has forced me to really be myself and I found my thoughts often going back to the high moments of my past relationship especially during moments when I have felt lonely. It doesn't help that recently a friend of mine had told me that the ex has moved to Barcelona, somewhere we talked about settling down in together. No doubt, she is starting her own life there.

At the same time, I am aware that I should not be thinking or feeling like this, I am consciously aware (from RP awakening) that the relationship was toxic, the girl had many red flags but it is hard to control the emotions at times. I feel pathetic and frustrated I cannot erase this person from my mind. In fact, to my very surprise, I have had 2 dreams about the ex within the past month (surprising since I've not dreamt about her for the whole year).

Interestingly, this resurfacing pain has recreated a momentum for me to amp up my self-improvement. (I talked about in earlier months that as I was recovering and the pain was gone, I've started to slack on my gym and self-help routines.) I am starting to amp up the frequency of my exercises, read and journal more. Also, it has really led to question the source of my self-esteem and value, maybe rather than focus it on the girl (or any girls), I should really draw value from within myself and learn to be happy being alone.

An interesting thought I had was on the idea of how women 'flow' into your life. When I was with that ex, I had women literally vying for my attention, a lot of plates were spun; top quality ones too. It was really really effortless. In a way because I was with the ex, I did not actively cared or chased. Now, that I am in a dry spell, it has been difficult to set up plates, requires so much effort. Even if I am trying deliberately now with much effort, the results have not been good at all. So I find it interesting how, when they come, they come in droves and when they're gone, they're gone in droves too.

Anyway, good news is, the restrictions for Covid are now gone and I am recently vaccinated, so I believe I will bounce back from the dry spell and get back to normal life again. I will keep you guys updated for sure.

For those who are reading this for a reference/indication of breadcrumbs; the ex has not left any, not after 8 months, not a single spec.

Take care brothers.

-James
Sometimes the only thing that can cure a broken heart is time...
And, more important than that, someone new.
In the end it is up to you to decide if you're willing to work towards meeting someone new or torturing yourself with the past.
To me, it seems like you think about her waaay too much after 8 months. It's not ok.
I do hope you'll get better bro, but in all honesty, it's all up to you. Man up and go out there!
 

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Hello gents.

Back again with my monthly update. Another month has gone by.

It is now:

NC 240 (8 Months)

For those who have followed (and those that have not) read my monthly updates, I have been doing well for months!

But things have been a bit tough and down lately (starting from month 6 - 7). Following my last update, I have sunk into a lower point because of an insane dry spell I've been going through. As I mentioned, I have moved somewhere with stricter Covid restrictions, for a period of time it has been strict lockdown. So I've not been able to really go out and date women. Being locked down has forced me to really be myself and I found my thoughts often going back to the high moments of my past relationship especially during moments when I have felt lonely. It doesn't help that recently a friend of mine had told me that the ex has moved to Barcelona, somewhere we talked about settling down in together. No doubt, she is starting her own life there.

At the same time, I am aware that I should not be thinking or feeling like this, I am consciously aware (from RP awakening) that the relationship was toxic, the girl had many red flags but it is hard to control the emotions at times. I feel pathetic and frustrated I cannot erase this person from my mind. In fact, to my very surprise, I have had 2 dreams about the ex within the past month (surprising since I've not dreamt about her for the whole year).

Interestingly, this resurfacing pain has recreated a momentum for me to amp up my self-improvement. (I talked about in earlier months that as I was recovering and the pain was gone, I've started to slack on my gym and self-help routines.) I am starting to amp up the frequency of my exercises, read and journal more. Also, it has really led to question the source of my self-esteem and value, maybe rather than focus it on the girl (or any girls), I should really draw value from within myself and learn to be happy being alone.

An interesting thought I had was on the idea of how women 'flow' into your life. When I was with that ex, I had women literally vying for my attention, a lot of plates were spun; top quality ones too. It was really really effortless. In a way because I was with the ex, I did not actively cared or chased. Now, that I am in a dry spell, it has been difficult to set up plates, requires so much effort. Even if I am trying deliberately now with much effort, the results have not been good at all. So I find it interesting how, when they come, they come in droves and when they're gone, they're gone in droves too.

Anyway, good news is, the restrictions for Covid are now gone and I am recently vaccinated, so I believe I will bounce back from the dry spell and get back to normal life again. I will keep you guys updated for sure.

For those who are reading this for a reference/indication of breadcrumbs; the ex has not left any, not after 8 months, not a single spec.

Take care brothers.

-James
I hear you bro but stop analyzing your relationship through the RP lens. It's good to reflect and understand where you went wrong, but don't keep replaying it in your head.

What's in the past is in the past. Leave it there.
 

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Hi all,

2nd post, here, I'm Nico (30) from GER, was tired of my GF, made her dump me after 5 years, 3 months later a big crisis hit me, tried to get her back, failed, now I'm doing the challenge, this is day 1.

Yesterday, I had my final talk with her, pushed her to say, that it is over forever vs. she saying "over for now", "maybe in future" etc. Inside I knew it was over but somehow these "maybe in future" statements gave me some irrational hope. I was relieved, even in a good mood for some hours and ready to move on until I went to bed and memories started to haunt me all night, in the end I slept 3 hours before going to work. I will describe how miserable I feel, not to get your compassion but because it is part of the story and it somehow helps to write it dow here.

To be honest, I do not know whether it is good or bad that it is over, maybe it is even good, which this is hard to believe in my current situation. On the other hand I know that I am especially missing and loving the girl she used to be, I am missing an old version of her, old times that are in my memories and that are bound to places and all kind of things in my life and it is those memories that have turned my days into a nightmare for nearly 4 weeks now. I wish I could just put them in a box until I am over it. Interestingly it is not only old memories but also memories which happened just a few days before the break up. It seems to be a very selective perception of my mind, only showing me the great things and ignoring everything which was bad. But this insight does not help me emotionally - at least not now. It is also weird, that it was the exact opposite that lead me into the break up: my mind only showing me negative things and ignoring everything which was positive. I need to get this in control, else it has the potential to ruin further parts of my life.

In the last weeks after the break up I seem to have learned more about myself than ever before and I am grateful for this reflection but also deeply disappointed of myself at the same time. I was extremely arrogant, selfish, a coward, running away from problems, ignoring everything which was outside my comfort zone, always happy and overly confident (the confidence of an idiot who does not know himself), looking down on people who had problems I could not understand and more. I know I am not a terrible person but it scares me that I let myself become like this without consciously knowing, just pushing it all away.

I also learned a lot about my former girl friend and it feels that even a tiny part of what I know today about myself and herself could have made a huge difference in our relationship. It is sad that things like our break up have to happen for me to open my eyes.

Edit: I will take three weeks off work to be with myself and start getting over her. No update from me during that time.
 
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As amazed as I am, I'm back in here. I had dated a long time friend and caught feelings. She is moving a couple hours away and had given me the friends speech. I had made it clear when we split that I had crossed a line, friends wasn't an option for me and told her to get back in touch if things change. I cut all contact, never texted her and never responded to a text sent by her a month later. I had posted about some interactions since then, where I refused a hug and she took it pretty hard. I hadn't posted about the breakup on this thread and rode it out.

I thought that I was all good after four months and dated quite a few others, but she showed up again where I was (yet again), sat down next to me and we spent the night catching up. She had been pretty persistent in trying to reopen things with me over the last month and I finally caved. I had been avoiding her and leaving whenever she showed up. Long story short, we talked like the last months never happened, closed the place and made out a bit at her car. She sent me a text the following morning that it was really nice to see me again and I simply replied, same here. A week later, there I was at her place (last night). She had showed up again, we closed the place again and invited me back to her place for a drink. On my end, I realized that my heart was still attached. I tried to make a move, but she shut me down, saying in short: "what's the point, I'm moving". In my "logical" head, I shouldn't even have been there, but the brain chemicals had definitely clouded my judgement. It seemed that she was trying to freindzone me, but I wasn't buying and it ended up being a repeat of the original break up. Right now, I feel like I just got back on the same roller coaster that I had boarded months ago and just went over the big hill. I have to say that my pride took quite a hit and I am mad at myself, since I thought that I knew better than to allow myself to start to feel close to her again or provide her with any validation.

Red pill, blue pill, whatever. If you aren't a narcissistic robot, emotions can get the best of you and sneak in when you never thought that they would. I'm a realist and have lived both sides of breakups enough to know that if it's not there on both ends, that's just the way that it is and there is nothing that you can do on your end to fix it. When things don't work out, someone always gets hurt and it was simply my turn. Being that I understand that a woman will be a woman, I really don't have any animosity towards her, but this would probably be easier if I did.

So, I am going to have to change hang out spots for a bit to avoid any further contact, continue dating others (read as distract myself at possibly another person's emotional expense) and get my head straight, again. In a few weeks, hopefully, I'll be over this.

I probably won't post again on this unless someone has a question.
In hindsight (always 20/20), I should have left when she sat down or at least declined her invite. Why does my brain fail me at critical times?

Thanks for reading.
 
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