The problem is thinking of it as an investment. You must stop doing this because this is what stops your healing. You either want a return on your investment or you want to get even and 99% of the time you get neither and you just fester.This is a hard thing to stomach as a man. You want a return on your investment. The problem is there is a hole in the bottom of your bucket. Continuing to pour water (time) into that same bucket based upon how much you already poured and wasted isn’t going to make it start to hold water. Better to just get a new bucket.
And for the record - I have made this very mistake in multiple past LTRs. Would have been better off cutting ties as soon as it was clear it wasn’t going to work.
Relationship are not an investment here is why. 85% of all relationships fail. You have to be prepared to cut ties and walk away with the sense you have lost nothing because you have lost nothing.
Think about that. If we look at an investment with money through the lense of a relationship it is foolish.
Broker "Hey Mr. I have an investment opportunity for you. You give me 50 000 bucks and it will give you a good reward on your investment." Double or triple. You will make cake!!
You " what is the catch?"
Broker "there is an 85% chance you will lose everything. You in?"
How many of you would put your money down?
A relationship is not an investment. A relationship is something where the woman adds to your life. She isn't your life, she adds a little to it. So if she decides to walk away, you have lost nothing. If you decided to walk away you have lost nothing.
It is all about mindset do not view a relationship as an investment.