If she is becoming disrespectful and toxic then you did the right thing. Just walk away.Back here after a 2.5 year relationship!
The last few months have a been a struggle, this weekend I think we've finally both cracked. There has been some real toxic and disrespectful behaviour on her part, I wanted to end the relationship soon and had plans to after she finished her course which we was struggling quite a bit with, she beat me too it. Both of us were in agreement that we weren't making each other happy.
I lost my centre and purpose in life but i could see everything failing in front of me without the communication from either of us, I have been working out and eating healthy for a while now, I guess, in a way mentally preparing for the situation I find myself in now.
If I'm honest, yes it does suck at times but not as bad as I thought - it does feel like a weight has been lifted.
We got into an argument over the weekend over nothing, i asked her what the problem was and that's we she came out with not knowing what she wanted and was unhappy. I asked her where she wanted to go from here and she didn't know. I proposed a break to test the waters and see how we both felt and this would also allow her to complete her course with less stress, she agreed.
Knowing this was a big mistake on my part, I rang her back and asked to meet the next day so we can properly chat about us and the future.
Cut a long story short I told her the break was a bad idea and the best thing for us both was to drop down tools and move on without each other. I told her this is something that's been coming for a while and even though I would try my best to make us work, I didn't feel like she would put the effort in as much as me. I told here there were no hard feelings but I will not be getting in contact with her again and that if she changed her mind. She knew where I was!
I walked away and that's been the last time I've seen or spoke to her in four days - the longest we've gone without speaking to each other.
If you've read this far down, thank you! I needed to vent somewhere and this is it.
I'm here if anyone else wants advice or a chat!
What most men don't realize is if she can go toxic suddenly, this has been her true colours all along. She just chose to hide it and sadly you fell in love with a phony personality. The toxic personality is the real her. If you genuinely care for a person you do not deliberately disrespect them or be toxic towards them. You just don't. If she suddenly goes toxic then she is just showing her true colours.
Keep your head high and if she ever does reach out, do not fall for it. Once toxic always toxic. She just chosen to hide it
If she tries to contact you moving forward, just ignore and delete and move on.