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Don Juan
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When you go no contact, you have to stay no contact. There are no exceptions, and there is no obligation that you have to respond, react or do anything. Who cares what she thinks, she is old news. The fact that you wrote this post means you still have feelings for her, or you would not have written it. We all have feelings for exes, but the only way to heal and get over it is no contact, and eventually when someone else comes, you get over it - it takes time, it could take many years...but it will happen. Stay no contact, and next time just ignore her, who cares about common courtesy - she does not pay your rent or pay your finances or she isn't your boss - so you do not need to acknowledge her.Hello Everyone,
I need your opinion on this No Contact that I have been observing since Dec 2021.
Here is the brief background about us - We (both 29 now) live in the same area and went to same under graduate school. Although we never dated during the school, we dated for a brief period ( 4 months during in 2017, 2-3 years after graduation) and then I was the friendzoned (also hard core blue pill) who tried to win her affection/love from 2018 - 2021 (with many ups and downs with many brief no contacts in between). In short, a classic oneitus case.
I am now quite red pilled aware for last 2 years and have improved in physical, career and money (career, money wise I would rank in top 5% of my country but she is also in the same bracket career wise) . I also realized that during this extended current No Contact period ( that is still going on since end of 2021), I became emotionally stable and gained some mental peace (She was indeed an emotional roller ride and I must admit, I had literally no frame to deal with her ****ty behaviour). Now with the frame and everything (red pill knowledge), I am confident that I could no longer be manipulated. During the last meet in end of 2021, I had confessed my feelings (in retrospect, a beta move) and she categorically rejected saying she does feel this way for any person and thus our current no contact period began.
Since we live in the same area, I had bumped into her in mid 2022 when I chit chatted (did not ask her our or show any interest)for a brief period (around 30 secs) and then went my way. Fast forward to few minutes back, I again bumped into her, however, this time, I did not stop by (so we both were facing the direction, I was walking and she was standing and chit chatting with some female friend but she must have seen me once I passed through by her)
My question to you, should I have stopped by and said hello to her? Honestly, last 14-15 months of no contact were really good for me but 'she is the girl that got away' type! (things never went beyond kissing). Should I reinitiate the contact (not overtly but if I bump into her again, should I ask her out) or completely ignore? I understand my ego is involved here and banging her may bring that final revenge
PS - I am not involved in any relationship currently. I had seen someone dropping her to her home in mid 2022 (the 30 secs meet that I described earlier) so she could be dating/relationship (but she has always said she does not want to get married and blah blah) Please feel free to ask any additional information that you may need to give suggestions.
Thanks a lot
GreenLand Shark
This post changed my life, and it helped me forward, and regain the power against an ex who after leaving was trying manipulate me again because she said I was an ******* lol. I ended up getting the power back.