"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stripper Question?

Tedhe

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I think after reading these threads that I am thinking to much on this s*it, if I wanna see her I should just go - if she flakes - whatever

Letting some stupid fear of rejection get me
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Never contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
 

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Never contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
Yup, these chicks are masters at manipulating guys into spending money on them and feigning interest until it comes time to put out...there will always be some excuse as to why or promises for next time....
 

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Dont care at all what she does with other guys, as mentioned im in open relationships - more curious on how to reapproach/respond after coming across as weak.

- do nothing?
- don't care?
- keep doing what I was doing before?
Etc

Question is more about regaining power - stripper part is secondary
You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
 

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You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
Well said.

It's a great point. I honestly don't even care about f*cking her - I just wanna keep the fun in the VIP going - unsure if coming across as weak effects that
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Never contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
Money ain't the issue - thankfully - just want to keep the fantasy alive. I get value out of that fantasy
 

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You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
I have consistent **** buddies, just enjoying the fantasy of this all
 

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The fact that she is a stripper shows that she is a broken woman. Either pound her silly or move to the next woman.

You spent a lot of money on a sporting event for a ***** which shows that your priorities are messed up.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Fantasies are for women to engage in
Disagree 100%

Tell me that when you tie a beautiful girl up and get into some fun role playing stuff....
 
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Disagree 100%

Tell me that when you for a beautiful girl up and get into some fun role playing stuff....
Nope I dominate her...she can play with you, lol
 

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One thing I have learned is never to apologize.... it just shows weakness and neediness..... it brings attention to the "infraction"... often times it is already forgotten by your mate.

Hard to do because as you said we are human.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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