Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yup, these chicks are masters at manipulating guys into spending money on them and feigning interest until it comes time to put out...there will always be some excuse as to why or promises for next time....Never contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.Dont care at all what she does with other guys, as mentioned im in open relationships - more curious on how to reapproach/respond after coming across as weak.
- do nothing?
- don't care?
- keep doing what I was doing before?
Etc
Question is more about regaining power - stripper part is secondary
Well said.You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Money ain't the issue - thankfully - just want to keep the fantasy alive. I get value out of that fantasyNever contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
I have consistent **** buddies, just enjoying the fantasy of this allYou have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
And/or the time.Power is to the person who takes the money.
How so?And/or the time.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Fantasies are for women to engage inI have consistent **** buddies, just enjoying the fantasy of this all
Disagree 100%Fantasies are for women to engage in
Nope I dominate her...she can play with you, lolDisagree 100%
Tell me that when you for a beautiful girl up and get into some fun role playing stuff....
I like that responseNope I dominate her...she can play with you, lol
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.