Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yup, these chicks are masters at manipulating guys into spending money on them and feigning interest until it comes time to put out...there will always be some excuse as to why or promises for next time....Never contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.Dont care at all what she does with other guys, as mentioned im in open relationships - more curious on how to reapproach/respond after coming across as weak.
- do nothing?
- don't care?
- keep doing what I was doing before?
Etc
Question is more about regaining power - stripper part is secondary
Well said.You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Money ain't the issue - thankfully - just want to keep the fantasy alive. I get value out of that fantasyNever contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
I have consistent **** buddies, just enjoying the fantasy of this allYou have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
And/or the time.Power is to the person who takes the money.
How so?And/or the time.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Fantasies are for women to engage inI have consistent **** buddies, just enjoying the fantasy of this all
Disagree 100%Fantasies are for women to engage in
Nope I dominate her...she can play with you, lolDisagree 100%
Tell me that when you for a beautiful girl up and get into some fun role playing stuff....
I like that responseNope I dominate her...she can play with you, lol
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.