I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yup, these chicks are masters at manipulating guys into spending money on them and feigning interest until it comes time to put out...there will always be some excuse as to why or promises for next time....Never contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.Dont care at all what she does with other guys, as mentioned im in open relationships - more curious on how to reapproach/respond after coming across as weak.
- do nothing?
- don't care?
- keep doing what I was doing before?
Etc
Question is more about regaining power - stripper part is secondary
Well said.You have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Money ain't the issue - thankfully - just want to keep the fantasy alive. I get value out of that fantasyNever contact her again and save your money to take real girls out for a beer and bang the crap out of them. Pretend they are strippers if you have to but do not, I repeat DO NOT spend any more money on this stripper thinking that is the key to filling her up with your vanilla glaze. I have only banged one stripper, not too long ago and I spent nothing on her. Met her at the mall though and didn't know she was a stripper til afterward.
I have consistent **** buddies, just enjoying the fantasy of this allYou have no power. You are giving her something and getting nothing in return. That's called a suckers bet.
And/or the time.Power is to the person who takes the money.
How so?And/or the time.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Fantasies are for women to engage inI have consistent **** buddies, just enjoying the fantasy of this all
Disagree 100%Fantasies are for women to engage in
Nope I dominate her...she can play with you, lolDisagree 100%
Tell me that when you for a beautiful girl up and get into some fun role playing stuff....
I like that responseNope I dominate her...she can play with you, lol
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.