Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Agreed but useless without the mindset.Don't buy the sociopath thing. Looks or MONEY trumps all.
I guess "success" is relative. The most successful people I know are not very balanced people. They are very focused and tend to be selfish. The technical minded ones lack social skills and have Asperger traits/OCD. The ones in politics show a lot of cluster B traits.I don't believe that it is necessary to have a personality disorder in order to enjoy something or to be successful at anything.
I was at a Guitar Center last weekend checking out guitars on the wall. I heard somebody talking next to me. The weird part? I noticed he was talking to himself while playing the guitar plugged into an amp. It sounded like he was having an argument with himself. I smiled with a with a slight nod and walked away. Strange cookie.Musicians and artists - suicide, co-dependent on alcohol/drugs, depression runs rampant.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Agreed. It's a mindset I can't escape from anyway.I don't believe that it is necessary to have a personality disorder in order to enjoy something or to be successful at anything.
Exactly my point. I would even go out on a limb to say disregard rules and authority if the actions you take further your goals."Personality disorder" in itself implies there is a correct way to think. People should learn to embrace the way their brains naturally flow and manipulate it in such a way that it is advantageous to them. Most "disorders" have a positive aspect to them.
For example, anxiety stems from anticipating future events, a natural tendency to look ahead. This can be turned into an advantage with emotional training.
The term sociopath probably confuses what I think are the important points here: stop caring what other people think so you can take action and walk your path.
In the circuits I run in, most musicians are alcoholics.I was at a Guitar Center last weekend checking out guitars on the wall. I heard somebody talking next to me. The weird part? I noticed he was talking to himself while playing the guitar plugged into an amp. It sounded like he was having an argument with himself. I smiled with a with a slight nod and walked away. Strange cookie.