Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Agreed but useless without the mindset.Don't buy the sociopath thing. Looks or MONEY trumps all.
I guess "success" is relative. The most successful people I know are not very balanced people. They are very focused and tend to be selfish. The technical minded ones lack social skills and have Asperger traits/OCD. The ones in politics show a lot of cluster B traits.I don't believe that it is necessary to have a personality disorder in order to enjoy something or to be successful at anything.
I was at a Guitar Center last weekend checking out guitars on the wall. I heard somebody talking next to me. The weird part? I noticed he was talking to himself while playing the guitar plugged into an amp. It sounded like he was having an argument with himself. I smiled with a with a slight nod and walked away. Strange cookie.Musicians and artists - suicide, co-dependent on alcohol/drugs, depression runs rampant.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Agreed. It's a mindset I can't escape from anyway.I don't believe that it is necessary to have a personality disorder in order to enjoy something or to be successful at anything.
Exactly my point. I would even go out on a limb to say disregard rules and authority if the actions you take further your goals."Personality disorder" in itself implies there is a correct way to think. People should learn to embrace the way their brains naturally flow and manipulate it in such a way that it is advantageous to them. Most "disorders" have a positive aspect to them.
For example, anxiety stems from anticipating future events, a natural tendency to look ahead. This can be turned into an advantage with emotional training.
The term sociopath probably confuses what I think are the important points here: stop caring what other people think so you can take action and walk your path.
In the circuits I run in, most musicians are alcoholics.I was at a Guitar Center last weekend checking out guitars on the wall. I heard somebody talking next to me. The weird part? I noticed he was talking to himself while playing the guitar plugged into an amp. It sounded like he was having an argument with himself. I smiled with a with a slight nod and walked away. Strange cookie.