I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Agreed but useless without the mindset.Don't buy the sociopath thing. Looks or MONEY trumps all.
I guess "success" is relative. The most successful people I know are not very balanced people. They are very focused and tend to be selfish. The technical minded ones lack social skills and have Asperger traits/OCD. The ones in politics show a lot of cluster B traits.I don't believe that it is necessary to have a personality disorder in order to enjoy something or to be successful at anything.
I was at a Guitar Center last weekend checking out guitars on the wall. I heard somebody talking next to me. The weird part? I noticed he was talking to himself while playing the guitar plugged into an amp. It sounded like he was having an argument with himself. I smiled with a with a slight nod and walked away. Strange cookie.Musicians and artists - suicide, co-dependent on alcohol/drugs, depression runs rampant.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Agreed. It's a mindset I can't escape from anyway.I don't believe that it is necessary to have a personality disorder in order to enjoy something or to be successful at anything.
Exactly my point. I would even go out on a limb to say disregard rules and authority if the actions you take further your goals."Personality disorder" in itself implies there is a correct way to think. People should learn to embrace the way their brains naturally flow and manipulate it in such a way that it is advantageous to them. Most "disorders" have a positive aspect to them.
For example, anxiety stems from anticipating future events, a natural tendency to look ahead. This can be turned into an advantage with emotional training.
The term sociopath probably confuses what I think are the important points here: stop caring what other people think so you can take action and walk your path.
In the circuits I run in, most musicians are alcoholics.I was at a Guitar Center last weekend checking out guitars on the wall. I heard somebody talking next to me. The weird part? I noticed he was talking to himself while playing the guitar plugged into an amp. It sounded like he was having an argument with himself. I smiled with a with a slight nod and walked away. Strange cookie.