You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
He won't, unfortunately. I've given him some gold in a few posts and he doesn't even acknowledge those posts when I hit too close to home.Tell him to buy a weight bench, Smasher, he'll listen to you.
Maybe.
How do have a home gym without a weight bench?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I've removed rows and back of neck presses from my workouts, due to some neck pain I've developed in recent months. Probably age related, but I don't want to exacerbate it. Still doing bent over rows and barbell presses though.
The OP got a ton of good advice, but still insists that he wants "muscles by summer".
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How does the Army and Marines get you bulked up in just a few months?
They don't.
Mashed potatoes.
Pull ups.
What about abs? Need tight abs to post pics on old.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Diet & cardio.
I do cardio and have flat abs but I want 6 pack to post selfies on old of my abs.
Not a bad idea. Similar threads before about this. Even photoshopping yourself into photos around good looking women to show social status as well has been suggested.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I see meat heads who have the big arms and chest (lots of times ugly face) BUT have very weak, skinny legs and do no leg workouts or cardio. I thought women like those meat heads because I see them type with decent women sometimes. Tends to be younger women too.
I used to watch that show, Hardcore Pawn. That owner guy would talk a lot of sh!t when he had his big security guards around. The Jerry Springer of pawn shows.
If i had his money I would have no problem getting women.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
