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Only if you kiss me first.If you're at a bar and a girl asks you this, what is a good reply?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Only if you kiss me first.If you're at a bar and a girl asks you this, what is a good reply?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It's generally a stupid move to start offering free stuff to random strangers.For those who claim to not buy a girl drinks does that apply if you approach her?
Do you ever offer her drinks instead?
Just curious, im still a rookie.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You won’t find them conning me. If one approached me about buying her a drink I’d just say “no now get away from me before I yell sexual harassment, creep!”I've seen enough guys buy women drinks, then the women walk back to their pack of hyenas laughing about getting yet another gullible guy. Men spend way more at bars than women, and the bars know that some sucker will be buying shots and such for the girls. And girls can have zero money in their purse and still walk out drunk with their friends.
I can identify with this. I have bought women who had higher salaries than I had at the time drinks on dates. I don't that happened in a regular bar pickup situation since I have bought way more drinks on dates than standard pickup. I maintain buying drinks for women at the bar during pickup died in the 2000s.Women want equal rights until the check comes, it's like yeah ohhhhkay!!!!
Wow. How difficult life is for women. Imagine that, having to worry about whether to accept free drinks every time you go out at night?![]()
Is It Okay To Let A Guy Buy You A Drink And Not Sleep With Him?
The paradox of life really does start and end with women at the club. It's the ultimate lose-lose: if you sleep with him you're a hoe, if you don't sleep with him you're a tease. So when you're at the club and a man offers to buy you a drink, is it…www.elitedaily.com
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I've rarely had this happen either...Girls never ask me to buy them a drink. I don't know if this is a thing. I frequently ask them to buy me a drink.
It was a thing 20 years ago. Not so much now. Can't remember the last time it happened to me.Girls never ask me to buy them a drink. I don't know if this is a thing. I frequently ask them to buy me a drink.
I don't like it because it implies it is a privledge for you to kiss her. But the idea is respond with some sort of joke.Only if you kiss me first.
It doesn't really matter what it implies. If she wants to kiss you, she'll kiss you. And if she doesn't, she has no business asking you for a drink.I don't like it because it implies it is a privledge for you to kiss her. But the idea is respond with some sort of joke.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Probably a femin@azi. You can never win with one of those.Her friends thought it was hilarious ( all except the short haired angry looking one…)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.