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Master Don Juan
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Only if you kiss me first.If you're at a bar and a girl asks you this, what is a good reply?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Only if you kiss me first.If you're at a bar and a girl asks you this, what is a good reply?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
It's generally a stupid move to start offering free stuff to random strangers.For those who claim to not buy a girl drinks does that apply if you approach her?
Do you ever offer her drinks instead?
Just curious, im still a rookie.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You won’t find them conning me. If one approached me about buying her a drink I’d just say “no now get away from me before I yell sexual harassment, creep!”I've seen enough guys buy women drinks, then the women walk back to their pack of hyenas laughing about getting yet another gullible guy. Men spend way more at bars than women, and the bars know that some sucker will be buying shots and such for the girls. And girls can have zero money in their purse and still walk out drunk with their friends.
I can identify with this. I have bought women who had higher salaries than I had at the time drinks on dates. I don't that happened in a regular bar pickup situation since I have bought way more drinks on dates than standard pickup. I maintain buying drinks for women at the bar during pickup died in the 2000s.Women want equal rights until the check comes, it's like yeah ohhhhkay!!!!
Wow. How difficult life is for women. Imagine that, having to worry about whether to accept free drinks every time you go out at night?![]()
Is It Okay To Let A Guy Buy You A Drink And Not Sleep With Him?
The paradox of life really does start and end with women at the club. It's the ultimate lose-lose: if you sleep with him you're a hoe, if you don't sleep with him you're a tease. So when you're at the club and a man offers to buy you a drink, is it…www.elitedaily.com
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I've rarely had this happen either...Girls never ask me to buy them a drink. I don't know if this is a thing. I frequently ask them to buy me a drink.
It was a thing 20 years ago. Not so much now. Can't remember the last time it happened to me.Girls never ask me to buy them a drink. I don't know if this is a thing. I frequently ask them to buy me a drink.
I don't like it because it implies it is a privledge for you to kiss her. But the idea is respond with some sort of joke.Only if you kiss me first.
It doesn't really matter what it implies. If she wants to kiss you, she'll kiss you. And if she doesn't, she has no business asking you for a drink.I don't like it because it implies it is a privledge for you to kiss her. But the idea is respond with some sort of joke.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Probably a femin@azi. You can never win with one of those.Her friends thought it was hilarious ( all except the short haired angry looking one…)
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.